Seeing as I'm half a spade, I don't dig it either. The racist stuff doesn't bother me in the slightest...What gets me is when someone (usually a piss poor dirtbag) actually thinks that they are better than someone else or when a man goes out of his way to try and insult another man. Humans in general are not a cool species, and most intelligent people realize that. Being offended by words is overrated.
Many moons ago, I partied with these guys on their Stillborn tour...Even bought the first round of drinks for everybody. While we were doing the "cheers" thing with our shotglasses, Phil said "Someone should go get ____ (the bassist/new vocalist - forgot the douches name). He'll get a kick out of this!" So along comes this dude. I try and hand him a shotglass and he looks at me and says with a nervous voice, "That's alright". Fully expecting this response, I kept staring him in the eyes while I pounded the shot. I'm not the nicest looking person in the world, and he was A LOT smaller than he looked on stage. He scooted away in a rather odd fashion and the rest of the band looked at me and started cracking up. We kept drinking and had a really good time for the next hour or so! I think dude knew that I was just waiting to hear some crazy shit come out of his mouth in order to make it a little harder for him to speak next time.