How did you get rid of unwanted people in your life?

[Reign in Acai]

Well if they have already been casted aside. But they still try and communicate with you over email. Is it healthy to still be cordial and reply, even though you want absolutely nothing to do with them? I probably answered my own question. But fucking aye


Edit- "Did" should be "do" in the header. Grammar nazi's be merciful.

 

[charger]

Well if they have already been casted aside. But they still try and communicate with you over email. Is it healthy to still be cordial and reply, even though you want absolutely nothing to do with them? I probably answered my own question. But fucking aye

Tell 'em to go fuck themselves and die.

 

[NAD]

Well since I'm a total dick and have done this several times in my life...

Distancing yourself is usually the best method. Just stop hanging out, or calling, or whatever and people eventually get the hint. If that doesn't work, be an asshole. Sometimes people aren't good at getting the hint, and since they can't pinpoint exactly "what went wrong" they freak out. I think that everyone need to realize that sometimes, you just stop liking someone.

 

[Conspicuously Absent]

Hardest thing to do ever. Basically I just reduce the frequency and size of all communications until you just kinda drift apart. But really, there is no good way to do it.

 

[NAD]

When someone gets the hint, it's not hard. And generally you can walk away easily because then that person thinks you're a jerk at that point anyhow. Win win!

The problem is people that don't get the hint. Ugh, a longterm friend of mine took years to shrug off, and every so often he still does try to contact me. The dude never grew up and acted like the same immature 12-year old punk that I still found amusing at 17 years old, but by the time I hit my mid-20's, I truly just stopped liking the dude. Actually for awhile there I think I truly hated him, which certainly wasn't healthy for myself.

 

[NAD]

look forward not backward."

Forward, not backward! Upward, not forward! And always twirling, twirling, twirling toward freedom!

*ahem* Sorry.

1. I think some people have a real issue with becoming a part time friend, and it's sorta silly. I have lots of part-time friends that I only see like once a month. If anything it allows you to become closer friends because you never infiltrate one another with complete bullshit, it's always just a good time with them. Like my buddy Jonballs, he's been an extremely close friend of mine for years, and I see him once a month, maybe.

2. Gah man, just gah. If you want to be nice tell her you think it'd be best if you stayed apart because that's the way things are going right now blah blah blah or simply ignore her. I hate situations like that, the twice-a-year email is more than plenty with all 2 of the ex-girlfriends I still talk to.

 

[Conspicuously Absent]

don't answer the phone
don't open the door
don't reply to emails
avoid eye contact

really how hard can it be

i'm too good even at getting rid of WANTED people, unwanted people? PIECE OF FUCKEN CAKE

I guess I'm too much of a nice guy. Even though i don't want anything to do with them, at the same time I don't want to hurt their feelings or upset them. Yes. I'm a fucking pussy. lick my taint.

 

[JayKeeley]

Set your dude friend up with your ex-girlfriend. It could be a good match, but then you'll be obliged to go to the wedding.

 

[Reign in Acai]

When someone gets the hint, it's not hard. And generally you can walk away easily because then that person thinks you're a jerk at that point anyhow. Win win!

The problem is people that don't get the hint. Ugh, a longterm friend of mine took years to shrug off, and every so often he still does try to contact me. The dude never grew up and acted like the same immature 12-year old punk that I still found amusing at 17 years old, but by the time I hit my mid-20's, I truly just stopped liking the dude. Actually for awhile there I think I truly hated him, which certainly wasn't healthy for myself.

Dude I grew up with a friend just like this. We knew each other since were both 4 yrs old. We'd do the whole sleepover play Nintendo shtick and all that other childhood jazz for years. Ended up still being pretty decent friends with him through highschool, even though at that time we started hanging out in different cliques. Anyhow, after graduation he becomes a huge coke fiend. Still, fine and dandy. I stopped calling, but I'd still be cordial whenever he'd show up to shoot the shit. Which was about every 2 months.

Well a year ago he comes over with a stolen motorcycle. He wants to leave it in my backyard for a couple days as it ran out of gas. Total bullshit as I offered to go to the pump and get him a gallon. Anyhow, he didn't take my NO seriously. So I had to raise my voice and be a total dick to the guy. He was on the verge of utter tears as I spouted. "Dude I wish you well, I really do, but it's not like we have anything in common. So why are you here? I know for a fact that that bike is stolen. You're not going to pull the wool over my eyes to go get your dope. " Fucker wanted to leave it behind so he could go court a buyer. To make a long story short, he pushed the "empty tank" motorcycle up the hill and out of my life for good.

He only showed up one other time after that. Presumably in his twisted logic, to show off what he believed to be his "hot" new gf. Bitch looked like she had herpes. Mouth sores and all.

Last I heard, he moved in with the chicks family in the high dessert. Hasta fucking luego.

 

[NAD]

It sucks when you actually have to yell at someone because they are too thick to get the hint.

Although, and this is probably because I really am an asshole, if you can actually get the person you don't like to yell like that at you first, that's the best possible scenario. You can totally walk away guilt free!

 

[Reign in Acai]

Are you still chums with that dude that impregnated his gf? You know the one with the 1,000 dollar a month car lease.
I vaguely recall you wanting to oust him from your Nad realm. Or I could of misinterpreted. One of the two.

 

[NAD]

Yep, just saw him last night. He actually paid me quite a compliment, he said that I was a major reason why he got his life in order by getting a job and taking care of himself and shit. For a few years there he was quite a bum like most of my other friends.

Course, I always told him to pull out so he didn't thank me for the pregnancy.

 

[Thanatopsis123]

I guess I'm too much of a nice guy. Even though i don't want anything to do with them, at the same time I don't want to hurt their feelings or upset them. Yes. I'm a fucking pussy. lick my taint.

I'm the same way. And if you all think getting rid of friends can be hard, have you ever tried it with family members? It's much more difficult.

 

[lurch70]

personally, I never had to "get rid of people" from my life ... chicks, yes ... but friends, things just fizzle out if there is not much in common over time ... and you drift apart from people.

but idiots that I have to tell to get lost ... I don't think I ever got into a personal friendship that deep where I did not realize the person is not someone I want to be around too often from the start ...

 

[snow2fall]

have you ever tried it with family members? It's much more difficult.

Not if you really don't want them in your life. I told my grandmother to the face that I want her to leave me alone, leave my life, for good. She failed to get the earlier hints like me avoiding her, so I just told her to fuck off at some point. Too much damage caused by her (and grandfather, never had a good relationship to him anyway). It worked. She doesn't bother me anymore.

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

funny thread

"cadre of jesters" =

 

[NAD]

I hadn't seen my one grandma in like 2 years because I'm not her biggest fan in any way shape or form, even though she's lived within 5 miles of me for the past 20 years. Then I walked by her in a supermarket like a month ago. When I realized it was her, I dodged down an aisle and made sure to get outta there before she recognized me.

If there's a hell, I'll see you there.

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

dude, that's terrible*

*speaking from the vantage point of someone who only has one living grandmother, and has been slowly withering away to nothing for 2 years now. sad, really

 

[lurch70]

you guys with the grammas are more evil then I thought ...
I lost most of my relatives when I was young ... so that does not sit well with me.

 

[NAD]

Hey I love my other grammaw to pieces and see her once a week, but I can barely respect this other one as a human being so yeah. No I'm not going to tell the story, rest assured it's quite fucked up.