Oregon School Bans Hugging ("It's Not Like We're the Hug Nazis..."

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Hugging Ban Sparks Dispute at Ore. School

By Associated Press
Originally published May 16, 2005, 1:22 PM EDT
BEND, Ore. -- A 14-year-old girl received detention over a lingering hug she gave her boyfriend at school, infuriating her mother and putting school officials on the defensive.

School officials said they had warned Cazz Altomare that lingering hugging was unacceptable, but she continued to disobey the rule when she received the detention earlier this year.

Rules at Sky View Middle School in Bend permit "quick hello and goodbye hugs," but administrators said some students have been taking advantage of it.

"It's not like we are the hug Nazis," Laurie Gould, spokeswoman for the Bend-La Pine School District, said Monday. "Kids hug, they hug hello and they hug goodbye, but if you take it farther, you make people uncomfortable."

Cazz got detention after giving her boyfriend a protracted hug in the hallway at Sky View Middle School in Bend.

Her mother, Leslee Swanson, was infuriated by the punishment. When she went to pick her daughter up from detention, she gave her a good, hard hug.

"I'm trying to understand what's wrong with a hug," Swanson, 42, said in a story Sunday in The Bulletin of Bend. People should not "blindly accept these fundamental rights being taken away from them," she said.

Gould said "usually kids don't get detention just for hugging."

All middle schools in the Bend-La Pine district restrict hugging to some degree, as well as hand-holding and some other forms of physical affection.

"Really, all we're trying to do is create an environment that's focused on learning, and learning proper manners is part of that," said Dave Haack, the principal of Cascade Middle School, also in Bend.

Students only end up with detention after repeated warnings earlier this year, he said.

Outside Pilot Butte Middle School on a recent lunch break, two seventh-grade girls said they disagreed with the policies.

"I think we should be able to hold hands or hug at least," said Annie Wilson, 12. "Because it's not doing anything bad."
 
yea they dont want kids to get any extra affection because like then they wouldnt go shooting up their schools with rifles and shit
 
am i the only one who sees the parent's blatent disregard for the school's authority as bad? sure, the hugging rule may be a bit silly, but isn't the parent's reaction teaching the child to reject any sort of authority a huge part of the greater problem?

go ahead, yell at me.
 
the parent is teaching her kid how not to take responsibility for her actions. regardless of how stupid the rule is, a rule is a rule and i'm just really sick of parents allowing kids to not take responsibility for their actions.
 
My old school didn't allowed hugs of any sort, actually, any public display of affection was banned.

Atleast there was an open lunch policy.