Seth Munson said:To be honest, imho its all in the cymbals.
if the cymbals sound fake, it all sounds fake.
And always do it by hand. How can you let a computer "humanize" drums?
Seth Munson said:the number of ms doesnt mean shit. if you want it to sound real make it so its not perfect because no human is.
just remember, which hands would a right handed drummer be hitting first? more than likely it will be the right hand.
I dont want to baby you through it, but that should be a good start. obviously its subject to change but everyone needs to figure that out on their own with time
EDIT: I must admit, having my engineer (who is a drummer) around has helped me a tremendous amount in asking situational questions. So maybe it would be a good idea to have some of your drummer friends come over and just talk about technique stuff with them.