advice thread.

[antiheroinc]

being as I don't really have anyone around to ask for advice I hope you guys don't mind me posting this here. i've been feeling a bit lost with everything these days so any positive advice.
so let me begin.

i've been having trouble dealing with my current load of medication (i'm a fast cycling bipolar schizophrenic, lots of words for messed up), so the powers that be have decided to move me into some harder medication. i'm not really psyched on this decision but i'm grasping straws at times dealing with my constant moodswings, so much that even my relationships with my closest family has been pushed far enough that i've been told to move on. i've had trouble finding and keeping friends and girls in the same manner, so much ive found myself given up.

so i've been looking for a new place to stay in brisbane but haven't been able to find anything yet. its quite disheartening when i can't find any friends who would want to move with me and i'm worried about living with strangers coz of the amount of audio equipment i got and the previous mentioned moodswings. i've always been pushed into being by myself so i wouldn't hurt others and with my current job i've become even more of a recluse (i'm casually staffed as a undertaker/headstone engraver). a lonely profession but it pays well and working late nights suits me. i've only recently started working as a barman to try and gain some people skills but its just forced more anxiety to come out.

basically i write this as i need advice. advice on starting a fresh in a new city from scratch you know as i'm sure many of you have had to do the same thing at times. i'm only 21 and this will be my 2nd big move after being forced back home for health reasons. so anything that might help with finding apartments/work/ etc. would be greatly appreciated coz lately i've been more lost in finding these answers myself.

thanks guys

 

[timislegend]

greetings!

i believe that you have made a huge step forward by examining what the big problems are. the fact that you are aware of the complications makes you ten steps ahead of any other person with similar issues.

the biggest advice i could give you is this:

other people have problems too. it is important for you to embrace your personality and gain a sense of humor about yourself. this can only lead to a positive outcome.

like you said, you are only 21... which means you still have a looooooooong life in front of you. you can't sweat the small stuff because... everyone else is going through the same thing... job/friends/family/bills/food/apartment/hobbies etc.

another important thing to remember is this... there is no sweet without sour. (as cheesy as it sounds). you cannot appreciate what is "good" until you have first distinguished what is "bad" ...and everyone will have something to say about these tribulations because everyone is learning together, (even if we think we are alone).


so, life... it's about the good, the bad and everything in between...


edit: also, i must say that i admire your current job... we have been mourning the death of our loved ones for thousands of years. there is always someone (like you) to make there final resting place somewhere beautiful. this is a huge contribution to society, if not one of the most significant contributions to the bereaved. (if it is any consolation).

 

[mephisto_loh]

cheer up, new winds always bring new experiences. And don't close the door before you take a look what's inside.

 

[antiheroinc]

well now im pretty low. got sacked at my bar job, and my workload is being cut as an undertaker.
sometimes it seems everything bad happens at once.

i genuinely feel lost right now. i have no direction and real short term goals. i need to move or something.

 

[Morgan C]

Ouch man, mental illnesses fucking suck.

Short-term goal: join a gym. I suggest this in every thread because I really believe it. It's the one thing that, if you put the effort in (exercising AND AND AND diet), you WILL get results. There's no real luck involved. Plus there are really only positives to it, I can't think of a single negative, apart from the social awkwardness when you turn down McDonalds.

 

[antiheroinc]

Ouch man, mental illnesses fucking suck.

Short-term goal: join a gym. I suggest this in every thread because I really believe it. It's the one thing that, if you put the effort in (exercising AND AND AND diet), you WILL get results. There's no real luck involved. Plus there are really only positives to it, I can't think of a single negative, apart from the social awkwardness when you turn down McDonalds.

i have been doing this. one of the only things i look forward to every day.

 

[amarshism]

Play more guitar/relax/do less/do more if it gets that bad come and keep me company while I edit.