thats what i love about this forum! thanks for all your answers!
i must admit i heavily scooped the low mids, because thats what everyone refered to as "bass is too loud"..
im a fan of 120-160 hz bass and also note definition in the 300-500 hz area...
i matched this song to some hatebreed stuff, that wwas one of the references.
yeah, its really hard to talk to a musician who has zero experience in this stuff

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the story with the incorrectly set up subs AND listening environment being less then optimal :
man, thats the worst thing i could imagine ;-) i always have in mind that people complain about the mix
in the worst rooms with the worst system setup...
if there is a song written in A they will say : bass is too loud (because of room acoustics)
if there is a song in written D they will say : bass has to go down (because of...)
sad enough, thhere is always some truth in what the bands tells you to fix about your mix/master.
even more sad : musicians cant really tell you what exactlly to fix, they only give you a vague idea about the
problem they hear in their listening environment. in the end you find yourself fixing the wrong things...
maybe there should be a dictionary "musician -> engineer" and "engineer -> musician"
