Men on allowances, WTF?!

[Krilons Resa]

I'd like to do what my grandparents have always suggested. The couple shares expenses based on how much they earn. If one earns more, they pay for more of the living expenses. Beyond that, they keep their own money and do what they like with it.

However, my wife and I work together. That has certainly caused its share of fights. Plus, in Japan it's tradition for a man to hand over his entire paycheck to his wife and then get a small allowance back (usually spend on alcohol, pachinko, and ridiculously young mistresses). This is because samurai thought that money was a dirty, dishonorable thing, not to be dealt with by men.

I've been trying to buck this trend but it gets increasing hard to be the lone soldier on this side of the culture war.

I need to up my Japanese skills so I can take over the business fully by myself and let her get another job elsewhere. Then we'll split our accounts and I can stop getting new ulcers every time I see her with her wallet in hand.

Underscore - good idea but sounds like a pain in the ass. gotta factor in grocery runs, target runs, etc...all them miniscule expenditures then divide it up based on a percentage of your income?

Bold -

 

[lurch70]

funniest Thanatopsis post yet ...

yeah, that paying based on what you make would cause even more drama and headaches.

I am all for throwing what you make into one pool and take out as you need ... with fingerpointing for frivolous spending.

 

[Krilons Resa]

... with fingerpointing for frivolous spending.

You betcha!

 

[lurch70]

TWELVE BUCKS

congratulations, you have out-swedened sweden

yeah, crazy.

cigarette smoking is almost non existent in NY. I rarely see people smoke.
I think starting next week it will be also illegal to light up in public city parks as well.

breeding a nation of pussies.

 

[Krilons Resa]

I dont smoke but I find it appalling what gov't is doing with it. I mean cant smoke out in the fucking atmosphere? Really?!

I went to a Red Sox game a couple weeks ago with some friends who smoke and you had to walk out of the stadium, all the way across the street into this fenced off area designated for filthy, low-life smokers. As soon as you walk past the gate you get hit with a wall of tar. lol Bunch of caged-in filthy animals.

I'm glad I quit 8 years ago for several reasons.

 

[Thanatopsis123]

Underscore - good idea but sounds like a pain in the ass. gotta factor in grocery runs, target runs, etc...all them miniscule expenditures then divide it up based on a percentage of your income?

Bold -

Well they don't bother dividing up that miniscule shit. Just big things like the house, cars, and bills. Small shit and everyday expenses they just cover with their own money or if both of them are together, the one that makes more will usually pay.

It works for them. They surely have more drama and cause each other more headaches than most old couples. Just not concerning money. And 1 of the top 3 things couples argue about the most is money.

 

[lurch70]

what are the other 2?

 

[Krilons Resa]

sex and children bs?

 

[Thanatopsis123]

sex and children bs?

Bingo!

 

[Reign in Acai]

A poor co-worker of mine who is about to get married, was kind enough to bring in 4 boxes of pizza and 2 buckets of chicken for the crew last night. This man who is a saint on every level, and has recently been put on a pre-nuptial allowance, had his head chewed off yesterday for carrying out this poor man's feast. Poor lad opened up to me late in the shift, that he was concerned he was going to get a mouthful in the morning. Apparently the misses to be told him, "stop by after work, we need to talk." That was after she moaned and questioned why he never took her to this fine dining establishment known as "Pioneer Chicken." How do some dudes get themselves in to such a bind? If the bint is cool at first and turns in to a raging anal cunt (homage r.i.p) after popping out a tyke or two, so it shall be. But how the fuck do you fork over your balls before a ball has initiated even one clowning?

 

[Thanatopsis123]

The problem is we don't clown on them enough. If we were clowning often enough, they'd not have the self esteem needed to establish oneself as the guardian of the purse strings.

Never stop clowning.

 

[dorian gray]

dude and his fiancee need some pre-marital counseling

 

[Reign in Acai]

No vag or warm caress is worth your balls. There's plenty of laid back bints out there who ask for the least bit of effort on your part to keep them satisfied. Why tie up with a heffer with insecurities and abandonment issues?

 

[dorian gray]

Yeah, not a great idea.

 

[KILL TULLY]

Fuckin' woman, man.

 

[Reign in Acai]

A poor co-worker of mine who is about to get married, was kind enough to bring in 4 boxes of pizza and 2 buckets of chicken for the crew last night. This man who is a saint on every level, and has recently been put on a pre-nuptial allowance, had his head chewed off yesterday for carrying out this poor man's feast. Poor lad opened up to me late in the shift, that he was concerned he was going to get a mouthful in the morning. Apparently the misses to be told him, "stop by after work, we need to talk." That was after she moaned and questioned why he never took her to this fine dining establishment known as "Pioneer Chicken." How do some dudes get themselves in to such a bind? If the bint is cool at first and turns in to a raging anal cunt (homage r.i.p) after popping out a tyke or two, so it shall be. But how the fuck do you fork over your balls before a ball has initiated even one clowning?

Poor kid got his Xbox taken away. Advice to all the milk sops ghosting on here, don't wed your first fling.

 

[Reign in Acai]

I dont know whats worse, these poor broken down shleps OR my co-worker who gives his entire check to mommy in exchange for a handsome allowance. The latter has a trust fund and property awaiting him but will die alone miserable, with nothing but a hundred dollar Disney panini to comfort his soul. The former shleps atleast get tail on their birthdays. What a sorry lot. To the sea with the entire horde.

 

[Doom]

I don't know about 10 years ago but a pack of cigs here nowadays is more like $15.

My partner earns considerably less than I do so she just makes a contribution to the bills, I pay them and we keep the rest of our income to ourselves and spend it however the fuck we want. Never really heard of this allowance business.

 

[SonOfNun]

My wife and I have a very traditional marriage. She is a stay-at-home wife and mother. I make and manage all of the money. We try to live simply and neither need/want much. We have $0 debt and I pay for everything in actual money (not credit). My truck is paid off (twas a gift from my incredible grandfather). I only buy books and CDs. I'll get her whatever rare purchase she wants from time to time and take her and the kids out regularly to do nice things/make memories. We're very happy this way.

 

[Bloopy]

Some of the people I know from school etc. have some normie stable marriages. But overall in this age of not tolerating abuse, I think men are starting to see that some women use marriage as a tool to take advantage of men. Marriage rates keep on declining here. I just can't see myself ever getting married. I don't have a normal job or lead a normie life really, and certainly don't want kids. True loyalty and love aren't proven by some piece of paper.

Luckily for women, there's still plenty of suckers out there. Plus, some men probably do need to go with the allowance model if they keep fucking up their own finances, haha.