We wanted to believe he was above the fraudulent fray, true to his family values, good and wholesome enough to help shape the world well into the future. That's what Tiger Woods was destined to do, according to his late father. "Tiger will do more than any other man in history to change the course of humanity," Earl Woods once said famously.
More than Buddha, he said. More than Gandhi, he said. More than Nelson Mandela, he said. "Because he has a larger forum than any of them,'' he theorized.
Well, this isn't quite what the old man had in mind. Remember all the occasions at golfing majors when Tiger would credit his wife and family for his maturity, his equilibrium, his historic preeminence on the course? All of that was a lie, apparently. Because a week after the 2007 Masters, when his wife, Elin, was two months away from delivering their first child, Woods is said to have met a Los Angeles cocktail waitress named Jaimee Grubbs at a Las Vegas nightclub. Thus began an affair that lasted more than 2 1/2 years and involved more than 300 text messages between them, some of which, if true, take sex texting to new levels of long-distance body heat.
To hear the tale from US Weekly, formerly one of those tabloids we'd ignore at the newsstand while searching for sports magazines, Grubbs said they had sex 20 times. The physical activity was frequent enough that Woods was prompted to call her with a request early last week, when the National Enquirer, one of those tabloids we'd ignore at the newsstand while searching for breath mints, reported that Woods had an affair with New York nightclub hostess Rachel Uchitel. When I first heard the voice mail tape Wednesday morning on the magazine's Web site, I didn't want to believe it was him.
But now I believe it was.
"Hey, it's, uh, it's Tiger. I need you to do me a huge favor,"' he said. "Um, can you please, uh, take your name off your phone. My wife went through my phone. And, uh, may be calling you. If you can, please take your name off that and, um, and what do you call it, just have it as a number on the voicemail, just have it as your telephone number. That's it, OK. You gotta do this for me. Huge. Quickly. All right. Bye."
Like that, quicker than it takes to unzip a fly, the image of the world's biggest and richest athlete was tarnished forever. Suddenly, Woods was no different than Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, Alex Rodriguez, Roger Clemens, Charles Barkley and other megastar athletes whose careers have been smudged to varying degrees by deceit in their personal lives. In this age of performance-enhancement deception and infidelity, Tiger always carried himself as the one athlete who was faithful to his wife and had only one mistress: the game he has dominated like no other human being. Turns out there were other mistresses, at least one of whom could not be trusted and reportedly sold her story to US Weekly for an estimated $100,000.
Sleazy? Absolutely. But this is what happens when a celebrity, in the age of high technology and low journalistic standards, leaves himself vulnerable morally. Most likely, he'll be scalded by the fire. The fallout will be more devastating for Woods than the aforementioned sinners because we had so many hopes for him and held him to such a lofty standard as a person. What this confirms is that there's really nothing left to believe in, that we really don't know the people behind the image they're peddling.
And let there be no doubt that Woods has been peddling an image. While his wife and children didn't appear in his ads, he was presenting the picture of a young family man every time he climbed into a Buick. Or the picture of class and honesty when he appeared in those Gillette ads with Derek Jeter, Sports Illustrated's Sportsman of the Year and Roger Federer, another family man. The companies he endorses have loved what he represented, too, and while all most were backing him with statements of support, even they must admit that we'll all be looking at Woods differently now.
He is not above the fray. Rather, he's just another big-time athlete who can't keep his package in his pants. And don't tell me that more than half the marriages fail in this country and that more than half the married men have affairs. Tiger Woods, by nature of his magnitude on the planet, was supposed to be an American hero. He is not.
"I have let my family down and I regret those transgressions with all of my heart," Woods wrote on his Web site. "I have not been true to my values and the behavior my family deserves. I am not without faults and I am far short of perfect. I am dealing with my behavior and personal failings behind closed doors with my family. Those feelings should be shared by us alone.''
He continued: "I will strive to be a better person and the husband and father that my family deserves. For all of those who have supported me over the years, I offer my profound apology.''
If his apology was sincere, his arrogance took over again when he lashed out at media organizations who, despite their tawdry reputations and apparent checkbook journalism, were accurate in their reporting. Yes, it's hell being Tiger Woods when a camera is your face 24/7. But he is the one dumb enough to leave a texting and voice mail trail, so this really isn't the time for one of his arrogant commentaries about the intense scrutiny he deals with. He provided one anyway.
"Although I am a well-known person and have made my career as a professional athlete, I have been dismayed to realize the full extent of what tabloid scrutiny really means,'' he wrote. "For the last week, my family and I have been hounded to expose intimate details of our personal lives. The stories in particular that physical violence played any role in the car accident were utterly false and malicious. Elin has always done more to support our family and shown more grace than anyone could possibly expect.
"But no matter how intense curiosity about public figures can be, there is an important and deep principle at stake which is the right to some simple, human measure of privacy. I realize there are some who don't share my view on that. But for me, the virtue of privacy is one that must be protected in matters that are intimate and within one's own family. Personal sins should not require press releases and problems within a family shouldn't have to mean public confessions. Whatever regrets I have about letting my family down have been shared with and felt by us alone. I have given this a lot of reflection and thought and I believe that there is a point at which I must stick to that principle even though it's difficult.''
The points he makes are well-taken but ill-timed. We need to hear complete humility from him, not the whine of someone who tried to fight his way through the rumors until he was too deep in doo-doo to avoid getting caught. Rather than take us through his incremental denial machines, which started last Friday, Woods could have made things much simpler by releasing his apology the minute he got wind of the tabloid reports last week. Instead, while dealing with the bizarre SUV accident that may or may not have been related to an argument with his wife. he maintained that some of the reports were "utterly false and malicious.'' He tried to deceive the public when there's nothing a lot of us hate more than a cover-up attempt.
What's sad is that Tiger Woods, whose foundation is a powerhouse that has donated more than $30 million to communities via grants and scholarships, will take a bigger hit than any of the others. Clemens, a steroids and marital cheater, never was likable. Jordan always flaunted his side affairs. Rodriguez's marital and steroids issues didn't surprise anyone. Barkley, who was busted for DUI and tried to beg out of it by emphasizing the oral sex he was planning with his female passenger, continues to offer rip-roaring commentary as a Teflon comedian. And Bryant? No one sells more NBA jerseys these days than a one-time womanizer who was charged with rape before acquitted. Why will Tiger take the biggest hit? His transgressions came completely out of the blue, meaning the shock value will linger for some time.
The damage to his image is done. Now, how will his golf game be affected? Though his comeback from reconstructive knee surgery was successful and he won six times, he didn't win a major event in 2009. Woods also showed sporadic lapses in focus and fire, blowing a shot to win the Masters with bogey-bogey the last two holes and losing to the previously obscure Y.E. Yang at the PGA Championship. As it is, Woods always has been wary of the public. Now, having been caught in a lie, how will he handle the embarrassment when he resumes his career in late January?
This weighty episode only saddles him with more pressure as he attempts to win the five majors necessary to achieve his biggest goal: breaking Jack Nicklaus' record of 18 major championships. At least he ended any future barrages of affair-related questions by releasing his statement, which is how David Letterman handled his sex-in-the-office revelations. But everywhere he goes, Woods will hear whispers -- and maybe even taunters -- about Jaimee Grubbs.
Since emerging in the intense public eye in his teens, Woods often has retreated into a cocoon, protecting his privacy intensely. Now, will he become more reclusive -- and surly in public? He always has tried to cultivate friendships with other golfers, but perhaps now his rivals see a crack in the Woods fortress. I remember the day when Tiger said his life could be lonely at times. He never has felt lonelier than he does today, and the game he plays could drive him further into isolation. "It's hard when you don't have that built-in framework of the team, when you can sort of absorb yourself into a jersey," said Stewart Cink, the defending British Open champion. "Out here, you're an island. When you play great, you're an island. When you play poorly, you're an island. And when you have some attention off the course that you'd rather not have, then you're an island."
The January edition of Golf Digest -- oops! -- made Woods a cover subject and placed him in a photo illustration with President Obama. The story line: "10 things Obama could learn from Tiger -- and vice versa.'' The list should have been expanded to 12: How to avoid a driveway SUV accident, and how not to cheat on your wife.
Gandhi and Mandela, it seems, have nothing to worry about. Their places in history are secure, unthreatened by a golfer with a permanent smear on his name. With apologies to the late Earl Woods, Tiger has done more than any other man in history to change the course of infidelity, not humanity.