Yeah, I forgot to mention that gating the toms is also a good idea, the old sidechain trick works here, but of course, you got 10 tom tracks instead of 5 then. But it all adds up to a good sound. I've never really worked with a real drumkit, I always use DFHS, and I used to hate the toms. E.A knows about this, I really bugged the hell outta him to help me with them. But then I found those eq settings, and it really helped me, cutting out those low mids is the best thing to do to them.
I find myself getting a good tom sound out of dfhs quite easily now using the eq settings i posted above. With a good comp with like a 10ms attack and the fastest release you can, 4:1 ratio, rbass, intensity on 3, freq 45hz, then slap a nice verb on it, and see how it comes out. Always sounds nice to me, and like I said previously, I find myself getting near the toms on Doomsday Machine.
But as always, it's all down to taste, I'm trying to get near the toms on Doomsday, because I really like that sound, but at the end of the day, not everyone else does. Just fiddle with the settings posted here and see if it gets you any closer to the sound you want. And good luck!