Are you serious? Didn't he lose his arm in a drunk driving accident in which he murdered an innocent person? For that alone he deserves no one's sympathy. Besides that, get a sense of humor. A one armed drummer is practically right out of Spinal Tap.
I have actually met Jeff irl, he is a super nice guy and even gave us free Possessed shirts. I love Possessed. What happened to him is awful. But in my opinion, it's not worth going out of your way to see them. Its strange that it offends you that I'd rather visualize some of my childhood idols as what they were once capable of.