How should I get back on my feet again?

[TheInsane]

Ok making a long story short:

* I had a lovely gf in England.
* We broke up over half a year ago.
* She announced that she was engaged in a sort of fast weird thing with some new guy.
* I was crushed and has been since.


I just dont know what Im supposed to do to feel better. I have spoken to a couple of friends who has helped me. I started to run to clear my mind. Of course I got into great shape as well (and now none of my pants fit anymore). I've been looking into doing something else rather than the boring mailman thing for a living and Im in the process of finishing some college courses as well. But I just cant seem to get out of my sad mood.

I emotionally detached myself from anything Swedish for a while since I was getting ready to move to England and my gf. When that didnt happen I feel like I have nothing left. I've been pondering if I should move to England anyway but not to my ex's city (of course). I still love the country, that I know since I've been there after things ended between us. That would truly start something all new but Im not sure I would do it for the right reasons.

So I dont know if I actully expect much serious replies, allthough that would be nice. I just wanted to write down my feeling and get some feedback because so much feels so hopeless right now.

 

[Pђoenix]

Bump because I feel sorry for the guy. I'm shit at this kinda thing so I hope someone helps.

 

[Taliesin]

Well, if you had that move planned, go ahead. Make a list of things you want to do, college sounds good, or a new job, anything there is and see how you could make it happen, in Sweden or elsewhere.
Go out, or get any kind of hobby, anything that can fill a few hours per week. After you've found a few things you'll see how your life has changed and how a new girl would fit nicely into that new life
Your life and your plans already changed a lot, why not go through with more radical plans and changes while you're at it?

 

[Guthix]

bah that sucks man... best way to get over a chick is find another... if their good enough they'll make u forget about the old one... i understand u want her... buuut she's kind of out of reach now man... shes getting married...

 

[TheInsane]

Yeah, things do suck for me right now. She was also my best friend. My only friend I could tell anything and everything ever. I have a couple of people I can open up to now as well but not like I had with my ex. It sucks so bad and I dont even know if she want to keep in touch. We have only spoken 3 times since they got engaged but its got something to do that everytime she writes me I cant handle it. I break down.

It would be nice to move but its a huge step and I did buy my flat I have now. If it was a rental it wouldnt be so hard to decide to leave it. And also moving to my ex'd country might be a crazy thing to do. I wouldnt move to get her back but to go after the other part of the dream - the part I can still have but I wonder if its worth it because the two dreams were interconnected so much.

A new job is a must though I think. I will finish my CV tomorrow and send out some feelers on adds and such.

I have a few hobbies and its nice while Im concentrating on them but I often fall right to depression back when I dont do anything.

And I dont meet women easily. Im shy and not self-confident when it comes to my looks and I know Im not the kind of guy most women drool over. And being shy I rarely get to show my personality either so its a lose/lose situation.

I really need to get back on my feet but I just dont know how...

 

[TheInsane]

I never really dream about real life stuff or people. Of course I woke up early today and I had dreamt of my ex. For whatever reason I was doing the dishes and was vacumcleaning her house. Fuck... Now I have her as real as ever in my head from the moment I woke up