Toms are the blurst.
I have a 4 prong attack for dealing with them. This is assuming I havn't tracked em....
1- Volume automation: Generally I ride the levels down to -30db or so, and only bring em up for the actual hits. Completely off between hits sounds wierd to me.
2- I duplicate the tom track, and cut everything but the initial 30-100ms of the tom hit. Use that to trigger the reverb so you don't get cymbal wash.
3- Sample replace last hit(s) like everyone else has said.
4- Worst case scenario, I do serious processing with SPL TD4, and make the tom just attack with almost no sustain, then rely on the overheads to fill in the rest, or add samples (not from the kit).