I've chatted with a couple physicists (not as many as you I'm sure) and I've read a lot of articles and posts by people claiming to be physicists so maybe I'm making a faulty stereotype. Nonetheless, they all seem to agree that the next big step is to find out what dark matter is. To me that seems suspiciously reminiscent of people centuries ago looking to find the end of the world.
The difference is that we have a tremendous amount of evidence explained incredibly easily by this stuff. Of course everyone would love to see competing explanations for bazillions of bizarre things, but right now this is the best idea available - it's not like that happens easily or amounts to a popularity contest. More knowledge about dark matter is a big deal, but it's not like everything is invested in that one thing - in any case, it's a great explanation, so information either way is what we're after... not a continued circle jerk to get nerds on the Discovery channel.
I really wish I could explain the kind of thing that happens when all of these different phenomena start building up towards what could be a huge breakthrough... it's unfortunate that the technical barriers are so large, but that's how things will be until we *really* understand the icky little details. So many things can't really be dragged out of the research journals at this point, but when you're at the point where reading those is not uncomfortable.... there's really just no explanation, I'm afraid. For a lot of reasons, many seemingly nonintuitive things just look like The Right Answer™ after enough time in the deep end, and hopefully that'll all be clarified soon.
It's not like some jackass just jumped up with something that sounded scifi and everyone went with it for shits and giggles... once you've gotten past the technical barriers, there's a real hope and expectation for elegant, far-reaching solutions - and these can be decades ahead of the right machinery to really flesh out the details at times, because that's just how reality decides to bite us in the ass.
The really troubling thing is the accusation of hivemindedness - that's really not how anything has ever worked. If someone unqualified jumps up with some technobabble and can't back it up, of course he gets laughed out of the room - but, apart from that nonsense, science comes first... and it is impossible to describe just how much of a gap there is between what some laymen think of scientists' egos and what actually comes into play in the long run. There are definitely egotistical bastards all around, without a doubt... but if anyone catches flak after an unjustified shooting-down as you've described it'll more likely be the guy who goes for the throat than the guy who has a better explanation than dark matter. This isn't politics, this isn't religion... to the scientist, integrity and curiosity are bigger than any single person that could possibly exist, and if that ever happens in a seminar then no more science will be done there. A group of people who do science may be just people, but a proper group of scientists is so much more that there's just no way for an accusation like that to be within miles of the truth... 'normal' interactions just aren't the same, 'normal' expectations are off the mark, 'normal' ego issues turn out completely differently in the big picture, so to put scientists next to angry teenagers arguing over the best Metallica album is just indescribably bonkers. There are issues and there are conflicts, but it's not anything like what you've described.
EDIT: I'll give a completely off-topic digression just for the hell of it. You know what to expect when you think of a smooth curve or surface, and you have a good idea of what a point should look like on them. You might have a good idea of what it means for something to happen at 'most points' on a curve or surface, how to describe 'most subthings' of this surface, and so on. You're not led too far off by intuition in special cases, but in general even 'point' and 'space' may need to be generalized immensely. In the field of algebraic geometry, some very easy and natural questions that could be explained to a small child have taken us through very bizarre-looking constructions (bizarre enough for other mathematicians to call them 'abstract nonsense' or accuse algebraic geometers of trying to take over the world), and almost any student will easily see a huge step between thinking that a different idea of a point or a space is nonsense and thinking that it was really the right idea all along... the guy who (largely) brought these new things about still has something like a personality cult around him (at least as far as mathematicians can have such things), the whole thing sounds crazy to the untrained ear, and the entry barrier to the field is pretty significant, but these generalizations have, in the last few decades, changed several fields of mathematics and a number of areas in the sciences and led to a bigger explosion in progress than some disciplines have ever seen. There are always crackpots and stupid movie plots, but strange things are afoot at the Circle K when nerds get behind something like dark matter - things like that don't happen lightly.
Jeff