The day your life changed forever

[Battle.Angel]

Interesting that many seem to consider negative events in their lives to be the most changing ones. If I think of life-chaning days, the first ones that come to my mind are the ones that have been so incredible, they've made me so happy like never before in my life! I think I've always been quite depressed growing up, so it's was like the natural state of my mind, thinking in worst-case all the time. Nothing special.. So if something happened that made me very happy, it was something very special to me It made me see all the beauty in life.

EDIT: argh.. I could talk about this for E-V-E-R! :Spin:

 

[Shpongled]

Interesting that many seem to consider negative events in their lives to be the most changing ones. If I think of life-chaning days, the first ones that come to my mind are the ones that have been so incredible, they've made me so happy like never before in my life! I think I've always been quite depressed growing up, so it's was like the natural state of my mind, thinking in worst-case all the time. Nothing special.. So if something happened that made me very happy, it was something very special to me It made me see all the beauty in life.

EDIT: argh.. I could talk about this for E-V-E-R! :Spin:

For me at least, it's the negative events that knock my life off course and throw me for a loop that I have to recover from. When something positive happens, it changes my life, but it feels more like I've accomplished something by overcoming other negative events, or that it was a culmination of a series of good events.

When negative things happen they cause me examine my life from an uncomfortable perspective and that in itself makes them more memorable than a positive event, because the positive ones feel more like they were meant to happen and that everything is going along normally.

That's why the lung collapsing was the first thing I thought of when I thought "Life changing event."

 

[Battle.Angel]

^ Oh yeah, I totally get your point. For me it's just, that I always EXPECT bad things to happen. (For example I'm still waiting for a major accident with my bike. I'm biking like an idiot sometimes and I'm actually surprised I never had an accident. But I've gotten better.. haha. I'm at least wearing helmet these days.)
So, something GREAT to happen is always what I think about first. Of course, they were some shitty moments in my life, but nothing that totally surprised me.

 

[ScientistOfDarkness]

09/05/2003 and 03/16/2005. I met two very special people on those days, they've been a large part in shaping who I am. Also, 09/14/2006, the day my great-grandmother died and also the day that my beloved pup had a bloody mess of an accident. Losing my great-grandmother was the hardest thing I've had to deal with so far, I miss her so much. Blitz getting hurt scared me to death that morning and I also permanently fucked up my shoulder trying to carry him to the car. I still can't sleep on that side or go more than a couple of days without painkillers. Stupid dog.

 

[Krigloch the Furious]

July 11 1997
day I had sex with a little boy

 

[Shpongled]

er... i mean yeah.s orry

 

[derek]

No such date. I rather think it's the poverty of our imaginations that make us believe there is one.

 

[Brooks]

The night my parents boned to conception.

 

[derek]

You mean that accidental smattering of sperm that crept its way lethargically into your mothers sodden womb?

 

[Brooks]

Lethargically?

It was a race for the prize, every spermatozoon for itself.



And I fucking won.



I'd say that was the day my life changed forever.

 

[derek]

Equally, though, you're 50% made up of the egg, which means you started life as a static jizz receptacle.

 

[Brooks]

So technically, we're all both the athlete and the prize. Both predator and prey.

Sorta explains the ever-burning desire for the unknowable other, eh?

 

[Shpongled]

Whoa slow down Brooks... my skull is getting tight...

 

[~Lynn~]

The day I can make sweet sweet love to this pizza.

 

[Shpongled]

Just fold it in half, man. No big deal...

 

[derek]

Let it cool down a bit though.

 

[Dead Winter]

Well then it isn't really just one magical moment it? Lots of things change who we are, and obviously some are going to have more significance than others.

Not that I have anything against people sharing their life-changing moments, I just have a hard time believing in the idea of any one absolute, like the ONE moment that changed your life or the ONE person who you're supposed to fall in love with. That kind of stuff support the notion that things are "meant to happen", and I can't get behind that.

Yeah I agree with that; we all make our own choices and that in turn decides the rest of our lives. The first day I was talking about was the day I arrived here. The second day was Gods of Metal during Hypocrisy's show. I met someone in the audience who forever changed my life...she wasn't my wife but the repercussions that followed from that concert changed my life forever. It was like a veil had been lifted from my eyes. It wasn't always good times after that with her and she royally fucked me in more ways than one, but had I not met her who knows where I'd be today? It was the first time in my life I felt truly happy where I was and who I was with.

Also, had I not met her I would never have met my wife. But that story is a long one and it's so crazy that it sounds like a fairy tale so i won't get into it because most people wouldn't believe it. But that specific day at that time at that place in the audience changed my life forever.

 

[derek]

Similarly though, why focus on the specific aspect of your story? Why not consider the buying of the tickets or developing a love for Hypocrisy? This can go back ad nauseum.

 

[Dead Winter]

True, but choosing Italy as my follow-on from Korea didn't have a life-altering effect on me. Neither did hearing Hypocrisy for the first time, although I WAS rather blown away .

It's hard to explain. It's almost like the entire world stops in place and everything else is falling off the earth except for you. It's so profound that analyzing it would be an exercise in futility; you just have to experience it. Everything I had thought about from the time I was born up until that point was suddenly gone. The way I thought I wanted to live my life was erased...it was like I had been re-born and was looking at a world through brand new eyes.

You're looking at it from a chain-reaction point of view...I know other things caused this. This isn't about fate or anything like that. This is just a single moment in your life that changed you forever. And it doesn't even have to be that big of a deal. For some people it may not have been anything, but for me it was a huge experience.

EDIT: It's funny, though. You would think that a warzone would have a pretty big effect on someone, and it did, but it wasn't the most profound. The war wasn't what made me want to change my lifestyle. It didn't even sour my taste for the military life, although it soured my taste for our role in politics and made me open my eyes to how corrupt and bogus our leaders are.

 

[Dead Winter]

The very first time my lung collapsed. Late 2000. I was 20. That was when I realized how fragile life can really be. It's a cliche, but it's a cliche for a reason. I always knew that life could be taken away in an instant, but it never really sinks all the way in until you have an experience that confirms it.

So how do you cope with jiu-jitsu and your condition? Do you take precautions? That's a pretty intense sport.