by the way, the reply he posted was my response to the only PM this guy ever sent me:
Hi,
I noticed that you'd bumped a few of my old posts up to the top, and so forth. I gave this a lot of thought...really, a LOT of thought, and decided that we probably need to talk about something. It may be sort of awkward right now, at the moment, but I think it'll be best in the long run.
So here's the thing : I'm not gay. Don't get me wrong, I think it's a perfectly acceptable lifestyle and however 2 (or more) consenting adults pursue love and happiness is fine with me. But...I'm just not gay, never had any attraction to another dude, and don't believe I ever will. I'd like to say that I'm flattered in your interest, and not at all offended. You seem like a very nice guy... maybe a bit uptight and edgy, but a bright and decent fellow for sure.
I'm sure that if you keep looking, you'll find someone as special as you deserve, perhaps even on UMF..maybe Azal?
Best wishes,
Bill