yeah i don't get backstage or hanging out either. If they are cool dudes and want to hang out, bullshit and shoot the shit, it's cool, but usually they are all tired and just want to talk with each other, and there's really no point for anyone to be hanging out.
It's cool if they are staying the night and then you meet them the next day and show them the city you live in, I've done that a few times and it's fun, especially if they are interested.
I actually went into the bus of SYL and DT in 2002 or 2003 or something, because my teen neighbor I always drove around to shows because I was a nice guy went to hang out with DT and I couldn't leave without her.
So I sat 25 minutes uncomfortably next to the fat keyboardist of DT, had nothing to talk with them about, other than stupid chit chat, then let devy use my lighter that he never returned, watched him take a bong hit and then microwave a pretzel and go to bed.
cool story bro