Help me with this dilemma

[The Ozzman]

Okay, so I am looking to find a new job here shortly and I wanted to get everyone's opinion.

I'm banking on doing A, but my dad says to keep a lid on it until I get something definite, but I'm afraid B will happen if I don't say something.

Halp

 

[cookiecutter]

I think you have to judge what your boss will do, but I think in tough cases like this you should err on the side of honesty.

 

[The Ozzman]

I'm at an advantage though because I'm pretty much the resident Excel genius and firing me immediately would only hurt him in the short term (where he needs me the most). I took up a ton of work that everyone else was doing before I got there.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Yeah, that's kind of a catch-22, isn't it.

What about just putting "references available upon request" on your resume instead of listing him there? It might discourage a few employers, but at least you won't have to worry about either of the aforementioned awkward situations.

 

[The Ozzman]

Well, I have that on my resume anyway (or if I don't now I will put it on there). No one has, to my knowledge, called any of the references I have used in the past.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Yeah, I think that's the best you can do. It would be pretty weird if an employer/recruiter somehow snooped out contact info for your boss without getting it from you.

 

[The Ozzman]

It's happened before. I've had temp agencies call the office asking for me. I asked how they got that number, but they wouldn't tell me.

 

[The Ozzman]

I just have a weird feeling that if I did tell my boss that someone requested references from me that he'd give them a bad reference just to keep me from leaving. That's me being really pessimistic though.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Well if you think your boss is going to give you a bad word no matter what, then there's not much you can do, is there.

You could just ask anyone who calls you if they plan to contact your boss for a reference, and if they say yes, then just go, "alright, I'll need to get with my boss about that... can I call you back with that info?" Then you'll at least have a sense of whether they're going to sneak around you to call him, or you might have their word that they won't.

If someone calls your boss without actually speaking to you first, you can just tell your boss you aren't looking for another job, you never talked to that person/group, and they just spotted an old resume you've had posted online for a long time.

 

[The Ozzman]

Well if you think your boss is going to give you a bad word no matter what, then there's not much you can do, is there.

Well, knowing what I've done for the organization since he hired me, there's an infinitesimal chance he'd give me a bad reference unless he did it because he didn't want to lose me there. I would just quit if that was the case.

I totally wouldn't have a problem helping him hire and train someone new since he'd need the help

You could just ask anyone who calls you if they plan to contact your boss for a reference, and if they say yes, then just go, "alright, I'll need to get with my boss about that... can I call you back with that info?" Then you'll at least have a sense of whether they're going to sneak around you to call him, or you might have their word that they won't.

Well, if they ask for references, there's a good chance they'll contact at least one person on the list and that would be the ideal time to let him now imo.

If someone calls your boss without actually speaking to you first, you can just tell your boss you aren't looking for another job, you never talked to that person/group, and they just spotted an old resume you've had posted online for a long time.

That is a good idea as well.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Well, if they ask for references, there's a good chance they'll contact at least one person on the list and that would be the ideal time to let him now imo.

Yeah, that's the idea. At least if they force your hand, then that approach gives you a better chance of being the one to first let your boss know instead of some random dude who calls him for a reference.

That is a good idea as well.

Of course, since you really are looking for a job, and you may have to confess that to him within a short period of time, it would be pretty bad to have told him that beforehand.

 

[Dak]

Sounds like a shitty situation, not knowing your boss I can't shed any new light on this.

 

[The Ozzman]

That 'now' should be 'know', but for some reason I have lost the ability to spell today

 

[The Ozzman]

Sounds like a shitty situation, not knowing your boss I can't shed any new light on this.

He's fairly laid back, so I don't foresee an issue. I'm just pessimistic/paranoid when it comes to stuff like this and like to have back-up plans.

 

[Dak]

Well you never know how people at a job think of you until it's time for you to leave.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

He's fairly laid back, so I don't foresee an issue. I'm just pessimistic/paranoid when it comes to stuff like this and like to have back-up plans.

I'm glad you made the thread, cause this is something I've wondered about myself, and I'm sure I'll have to think about it in the future.

I was kinda out in the open with my present boss about planning to move out of Richmond after graduation, so this situation didn't really come up for me. Of course, she is kinda pushing me out at this point by cutting back my hours, but I don't know if that was so much because of my post-graduation plans as it was the fact that I have virtually no work to do when I'm there.

 

[The Ozzman]

I think he'd be kinda glad if I left since it would free up some cash for him to use elsewhere

 

[Dak]

So he could start paying you for the blowjobs AMIRITE?!?

 

[The Ozzman]

So he could start paying you for the blowjobs AMIRITE?!?

LOLURSORITE

 

[Zephyrus]

How about be thankful you have job at all in these times.