I'm not sure how anyone else does it, but I usually turn the subwoofer off, and work mainly on the satellites, until I am ready to work on the bass. When I do turn the sub back on, I reference it with a few different albums, like Mudvayne or Static-x. Sometimes I'll have 2 different tracks for Kicks and bass. One pair of tracks will get sent to a group with a compressor/limiter, and a low pass filter for the subwoofer mix, and just raise the volume of them until it fits in the kicks, while the other pair has a high pass filter, that you can only hear in the satellites. I don't always do it that way, but I like some mids of the bass to bleed through, and it gives me total control of each part of them, so if I want the bass guitar louder in the satellites, it doesn't affect what is going on in the subwoofer as well. I'll also try different plugins and EQ settings on each pair of tracks.