Marriage?

[GarethSE]

I've been single for ages now. out of choice.

The idea of married life, kinda scares me really. Being around a chick practically everyday when you're at home, would probably just get on my nerves.
I'd just like to be able to find someone that understands I enjoy solitude, to have the time to listen to the music I enjoy in peace, to be able to watch films by myself etc. I'm just a natural introvert really.

I've been with pretty needy/clingy girls in the past, and never ever again will I go down that road. If you're going to make me give up the time I enjoy playing guitar, watching films, listening to music etc, go take a hike.
I guess if the partner has their own passions and serious hobbies, they'll understand it a lot more, and hell they'll probably want their solitude too.
Until I find someone like that, I don't see myself getting into a serious committed relationship any time soon.

Pretty much this.
Until I find someone who is willing to live and let live that there's some sort of romantic attraction with, I shall choose to remain single.
After having recently gotten out of a relationship with a ridiculously controlling, clingy girl, freedom feels real good.

 

[jauernis]

delte

 

[AD Chaos]

I'm at 33 right now and just now I'm REALLY starting to get the money, be able to get/do what I want, become independant, not have someone on my ass just annoying me for the fuck of it, becoming serious about my goals... Why would I ruin that by getting someone pregnant!! (no pun intended, anyone)

However, I too wonder what will become of me if I make it to old age.. I know you are thinking the same, even though you're not saying it

For me personally, FREEDOM beats orgasms and cuddling any day of the week

:Spin:

 

[JayB]

^ Thanks mate, that's sold me on life-long bachelorhood!

Marriage feels like an artificial construct, which is probably why it doesn't hold too well down the track. There is nothing wrong with long-term relationships and monogamy, but putting a 'stamp' or label on it, you immediately make it into something more, which it really doesn't need to be. Everything gets tangled up into a mess, and if you gotta go and untangle it down the track you're a tad fucked.

I agree completely , I've been with my girl almost 5 years. My parents divorced when I was like 2 and most people in my family are divorced , it just seems like a retarded label anyway. It's not like being married can stop a guy or girl from cheating , so I don't understand why so many people are so hung up on it. Look at any Hollywood marriage that lasts 24 hours , and then look at Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn , who never married but have been together for more than 25 years. I think for some people it gives them a false sense of security that their partner will never leave them , but in reality I think most times it can put immense strain on a relationship and force people who were previously happy apart. The way I see it , if you can't trust your partner without a ring on their finger, you shouldn't be together.

 

[crillemannen]

For me marriage is more of a declaration of love. I want to marry my girlfriend, but just because i really feel shes the one. She is fantastic, lets me do what i want whenever i want and for me it would just be an act of love to marry her. It will be nice to share that special experience with her some day

The funny thing is that people tend to get a child pretty fast but marry each other (atleast in sweden) seems like a waaaay bigger step in their mind.

 

[SocialNumb]

Marriage feels like an artificial construct, which is probably why it doesn't hold too well down the track. There is nothing wrong with long-term relationships and monogamy, but putting a 'stamp' or label on it, you immediately make it into something more, which it really doesn't need to be. Everything gets tangled up into a mess, and if you gotta go and untangle it down the track you're a tad fucked.

This

I would only do it to keep some hot woman in my country or for a shit load of money.

 

[xFkx]

Never, ever, ever, never, ever, never.

Besides, we have a fair chance of ending the human race without blowing up the whole planet so it's win-win.

Although the final years of my life will suck as hell ;/

 

[Charles J]

For me marriage is more of a declaration of love. I want to marry my girlfriend, but just because i really feel shes the one. She is fantastic, lets me do what i want whenever i want and for me it would just be an act of love to marry her. It will be nice to share that special experience with her some day

The funny thing is that people tend to get a child pretty fast but marry each other (atleast in sweden) seems like a waaaay bigger step in their mind.

no homo, but DUDE THAT WAS ONE OF THE SWEETEST THINGS IVE EVER READ!

i feel the EXACT same about my fiance' and wouldn't have it ANY other way. period...

...and crillemann, it's much the same in the states, or at least that's what i've seen in my part of the country....

 

[DanLights]

I agree with Christian and CJ, we considered ourselves married before we legally did it, we had this big cool party where we celebrated our love as gay as it sounds and now we're still living the same way, the "act" of marriage didn't really change anything, we already knew we wanted to be together and were already doing it

 

[SocialNumb]

The only way I celebrate "love" is when fucking in a church on the alter, piss fetish and all.

 

[Skinny Viking]

^ The fact that you would be in a church at all is what really disturbs me

as for marriage ...

today I'm all for being single. I used to get laid a LOT more and with more diversity (yes, only women .. not THAT diverse)

She's also being an unbelievable cunt this morning for no real reason which is fine with me, gives me more time to just do my thing and not give a fuck

Now ask on another day, you'll probably get a completely different answer ... except for the getting laid more part. That part seems like it will always be something that USED to be

I love my wife though ... no doubts about that and as far as the mechanics of marriage, I've argued just as much or not when we were dating. Essentially nothing changed except she has a hyphen in her name now

 

[SocialNumb]

^I actually have fucked in a church, believe it or not. Not on the alter though.

 

[Skinny Viking]

^I actually have fucked in a church, believe it or not. Not on the alter though.

and what was the Priest's name?

sorry, YOU opened THAT door

 

[SocialNumb]

Good one.

No, I didn't do it to insult the church/religion or anything like that. My girls (at the time) whole family was over at her house and we wanted to get it on. I was like 15 or so. The church right next door was open, it was late and no one was in it. That I know of.

 

[Sloan]

I don't see any advantage to marriage at all. To me it makes no fucking sense at all.

 

[jangoux]

+1 to crillerman. That's all it is about.

 

[Arsenu,]

Good one.

No, I didn't do it to insult the church/religion or anything like that. My girls (at the time) whole family was over at her house and we wanted to get it on. I was like 15 or so. The church right next door was open, it was late and no one was in it. That I know of.

i see your church and raise you my a cinema theater.
also about 15, me and my girl went to a movie and were alone.
decided to take advantage of that fact and got it on... twice...
by the way the movie was XXX 2 and i never saw it to this day...
but wer'e hijacking the thread here....

 

[DanLights]

Nah church wins no doubt. Cinema's so cliche hahahs

 

[Line666]

^I actually have fucked in a church, believe it or not. Not on the alter though.

Challenge accepted.

 

[Ola Englund]

I love being married, but that is just because my wife is kickass!