My marriage is over.

I don't know a single colleague in this field here that hasn't had relationships destroyed, reached the point of bankruptcy, almost had or had a mental breakdown.

It's an unfortunate fact that it's hard to find work out there, and most people I know have their fingers in many pies, FOH, monitors, photography, videography, etc. For me I supplement my income with all of the above, but then you have the other issue with venues here taking ridiculous amounts of time to pay you, and the scarcity of work in the other fields as well, and eventually these stresses all add up, then you get a studio gig and if you bring all that stress along with it, it's very easy to burn out.

I've gone back to shitty retail jobs after trying to work for myself for just on a year or so on a multitude of occasions, and it's finally all come together for me after 10 years of trying, and really only properly over the last year, I've been working for myself exclusively in audio and music related stuff since the end of 2011, leaving a pile of broken relationships and everything else in the wake.

In fact, the last album I was working on was one of the primary causes of my most recent relationship dissolving, or should I say it certainly brought out the rest of the underlying issues that I hadn't really noticed due to being so focused on work all the time. I met someone far better for me several weeks later, but I won't get into that, the point I'd like to make is that certain things in your life require such high levels of focus that you can tend to lose sight of the simpler things that are more important, it's hard to divorce yourself from that feeling regarding work when you need money to live, but at the end of the day, it's just work, and you shouldn't let it ruin you or anything in your life.

I struggled with depression when I was younger and it was a nightmare trying to balance all of this sort of stuff, so I really feel for you mate. I at one point was studying 4 units full time at university, while also working full time 50-60 hours at Apple a week and also trying to maintain a relationship, so I know full well how all this stuff can add up.

You seem like a very passionate and caring person, and you do good quality work, it's really up to you whether you want to see it through, persist and rebuild, just make sure you take the time you need for yourself to rebuild mentally and be happy with yourself, it's far more important than anything else!

I've developed many effective ways of dealing with and staving off depression and anxiety after years of visiting psychologists and studying the subject at university, I know how overwhelming everything can seem at points in your life like this, and while we don't know each other, feel free to message me if you need any help, we're all here for you brother!