With all due respect for Mike, the band and you, I do believe that you're reacting in the wrong way. Yes, it's tragic and we all feel saddened by this. I have no doubt that you are way more involved in this, and have way more feelings to be hurt, than any of us. But we can't stop people from speculating about the future.
Right before Christmas, one of the biggest bands in Denmark (a pop band) experienced a tragedy of similar proportions - the singers wife committed suicide, and letters found indicate that he being so busy with the band was part of the reason she had her personal troubles. Yesterday the band did their first concert since it happened, with the singer telling the media that life needs to go on, and as soon as he could get his mind off what happened and at least to some extent try and rebuild his life and future, the better - not just for him but also for his two daughters.
So, with that in mind, life needs to go on - even after something so tragic. Families needs to move on, and we all know how FANS are eager to look forward.
Sorry to hear that what "angrarox" said hurt you so much, but with all respect, you can't stop the speculation. It's fine that you don't want to be part of the speculation, and it's completely understandable that the band don't want to see it posted on their own forum. But what goes on around the thousands of homes where SG fans are sitting in front of their computers, just shouldn't bother you to the extent where you come on this forum and slam the guy for posting his own opinion.
Claus