i usually do something like this:
snare top:
high pass: +/-80 Hz
compressor with slow attack time (+/- 80 ms) and quick release time (+/- 25 ms)
eq: usually boost somewhere around 160 Hz for some body, pull a bit around 600 if i have to much tone / ring, and boost somewhere around 5 K with a pretty narrow Q for some cutting through the mix attack, also a transient designer or waves trans-x can help really well to do that job.
snare bottom:
high pass: +/- 150 Hz
gate with releasetime around 100 ms
limit the hell out of it so it leaves a nice constant crack and mix it in till you just hear the crack on every hit, usually i do no further eqing on the snare bottom
