it's also Andy that has told me over and again, every time i've broached the subject with him, to just deliver a balanced mix, and it was Roadrunner Records that wasn't happy when i couldn't deliver un-limited mixes for mastering... so i remixed, doing it very much how you just described, Ermin... so yeah, my mix was a bit out of whack w/o the limiter... and guess what, they didn't like it, said it was unbalanced... and hired someone else to mix. not the only time i've come face to face with this issue either.
i check my mixes with a limiter too, but if your mixes fall apart when you remove it , something is wrong with your mix. i can tell you this, i've heard loads of unmastered mixes from guys like Staub, right on down the line... including from andy... and they always sound good and well balanced... no crazy loud snare, or anything like what you are on about right now.
i'm guilty of asking some mix engineers to mix their drums, especially snare, louder.... so that when i limit it will balance out a bit... but only when the mixer wasn't that great, and i didn't have time to explain to him how to properly mix.. not that you can do that over the phone anyway. it was a matter of expedience.
look... do what you want, but saying things like "in this day and age" regarding things like this just sounds to me like your saying "in this day and age it's ok to not be able to mix without practically mastering it.
i think andy said he checks his stuff... not sure he meant that he performs his whole mix with the limiter on the whole time. Andy, like me though, does master a lot of his own work, so it's important and fine to work that way.... but his mixes don't fall apart when you bypass the limiter.
yours shouldn't either.