This is all so sad and disturbing to me. It truly hurts my heart. I hurt for the bands and the labels, I hurt for the fans, and I hurt for those people who get swindled into friendships. I, too, am one of those people.
I had a similar situation with someone else who is exactly like Tom, only he's obsessed with Queensryche and ONLY Queensryche. Long story short, he did everything he could to get buddy-buddy with the guys, trying to work himself in like someone who was important to the band's success. He had a forum for years and years and always had his head up Tate's ass, and then when Todd took over, he did the same thing. He and his wife got in good and deep with me, because I'm one of Todd's BFFs.
Well, when the guys'd had enough of his antics, he did a complete 180 and started slamming them all over the place. He made a big show of selling off all his Ryche-related merch and collectibles. He then closed his forum, only to reopen it a few months ago, and on that new forum, he managed to acquire a link to the new record on Amazon because someone over there had snafu'd the release date and made it available a month early.
So he gets the link, and rather than bring it to the band's attention, he shares it in the forum, and actually encourages people to share the link and to buy the record while they could! And I am sad to report that one of the people who purchased that leaked record is a ProgPower attendee. Shame, shame on you, sir. :-(
The only reason he took the link down was because Ryche's lawyer wrote him a cease and desist!
And all the while, knowing that he is hurting the band and the fans (a select group of which are Pledgers, who contributed their own money to the record in order to get sneak peeks and signed copies before anyone else), he still tried to send messages to Whip and Todd as though they were friends.
He continues to this day to defend his choice, claiming that Ryche was doing a terrible job of marketing by keeping the record hush-hush and that him sharing that link was doing more to generate buzz for the band than Sony/Century Media was - the unfathomable stupidity of that statement alone literally made my eyes bulge.
I considered this guy and his wife to be good friends of mine, and when this came to light, I wanted to throw up. I have since cut all ties to them.
I guess my reason for sharing this is that there are Tom Argos all over the place, and they are very damaging to a band's reputation, from both a business standpoint as well as a fan perspective - case in point, why did I pledge $250 for exclusivity when this dick downloaded it and showed others how to download it, a month before the release date? (I'm not saying that's my reaction; it's not)
My big fear with nutjobs like this are that they eventually turn into assassins - If I no can haz, NOBODY can haz - and then the shit starts getting really real. I think Jon Lennon and Selena would agree.
Please, people... Keep your ethics and your morals when it comes to the music we all love.
Don't be a dick.