WASPdate

[snow2fall]

I somehow doubt maren is a militant feminist

I somehow doubt it too.

 

[Ellestin]

I'm not going to read this thread. What am I doing here actually? Oh yeah right...

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

i thought this was about WASP tour dates

lol, me too

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

Sally: Charlie Chaplin had kids when he was 70!
Harry: Yeah, but he was too old to pick them up.

It's just a personal thing for me. I absolutely recognize (in this day and age) that people are getting older and older before deciding to have kids.

Right about now, I'm going to be 45 when my oldest turns 14 and I think it's good not to have such a huge age gap. I'd like to be able to relate to the kids somewhat.

My dad was 50 when I was 15 and I couldn't relate to him at all. Just too much of an age gap at that point, but yeah, it all depends on the individuals.

so basically, I'm fucked at this point, since I've just turned 33 and don't think I have a child on the way anytime soon.

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

So let's see: German female, wears boots, listens to depressive metal, lives in Berlin, lots of platonic male friendships....not for nothing, but on paper that describes "militant feminist". Not saying you are, and it's fine either way, but it's certainly a form of stereotype. I think the types of girls discussed here are the "girly girl" chick types who giggle when 'James Dean' walks through the door.

What can I say? Nice guys finish last.

Truth.

I'm hardly a nice guy and don't have much trouble with women. Well, not TOO much.

 

[JayKeeley]

so basically, I'm fucked at this point, since I've just turned 33 and don't think I have a child on the way anytime soon.

Well, you can always adopt.

No but really, don't take what I say too seriously (haha) -- believe me when I say, the grass is ALWAYS greener. You know, I should have lived in NYC as a single guy for at least a year before settling down, what with my English accent and all that.

 

[JayKeeley]

Truth.

I'm hardly a nice guy and don't have much trouble with women. Well, not TOO much.

Let me ask you something: have you found that the less interest you show in the chick, the more she clamors for your attention?

And on the flip side, if you show yourself as being too desperate, she doesn't want to know.

 

[NAD]

Let me ask you something: have you found that the less interest you show in the chick, the more she clamors for your attention?

And on the flip side, if you show yourself as being too desperate, she doesn't want to know.

YES. I mean this is basic chix0ring right there.

Also:

To the carpenter and the dainty bride
The grass appears greener on the other side
So let's clarify before we unite
That the grass in never greener on the other side

To the carpenter said the dainty bride
I pledge to you my love tonight
But I will not hesitate to euthanize
If the grass becomes greener on the other side

Said the carpenter to the dainty bride
I would never do a thing to jeopardize
This union I consider prize
Grass never will be greener on the other side

To the preacher man said the dainty wife
He thought the grass was greener on the other side
So I buried in his belly my butcher knife
And ended these years of wretched strife

Said the preacher man to the guilty wife
Though the law may give you twenty years to life
Pray forgiveness in the Father's eyes
And the grass just may be greener on the other side

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

Let me ask you something: have you found that the less interest you show in the chick, the more she clamors for your attention?

And on the flip side, if you show yourself as being too desperate, she doesn't want to know.

most of the time, you're 100% correct. I'm stellar at playing it suave in the beginning and acting like I just don't give a fuck. The wimmen LOVE me at this point. Sure enough, I'll *ahem* land them, then fall for them, and then they wonder what happened to the mysterious dickhead who didn't care if the chick paid attention to me or not.

I always manage to fuck it up.

 

[Hell Mike]

My turn to sound all gay and stuff:

The mistake most people (including most of you) do is trial&error instead of just keeping on looking until you find someone great. Wow I managed to put that in few words! Hope you understand!

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

I'm not sure I understand you: are you saying that rather than date or try different relationships, or meet different women, etc., that a person should hold out for that "one great woman?"

If so, I couldn't disagree more.

 

[lizard]

Maren a militant feminist? Never picked up that vibe at all.

Berlin has always had a dark aura, historically.

 

[MajestikMøøse]

wow this thread got really gay

 

[NAD]

I'm with 'gugs. I stopped pretending I knew what I wanted in a woman* ages ago, so my basic requirement is if I say "hey!" and they say "hey!" back, it's fair game.

*beyond real basic things like having a head and 2/3 of a brain, and preferrably a flat stomach.

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

I would've missed out of TONS of great life experiences if I had kept on holding out for that perfect woman. I'm not saying I'd settle (obviously, I'm still single), but I've learned to compromise and see the beauty in many different types of women now.

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

I love Pinkage threads!

 

[Erik]

fotmbm your theory is cute but flawed because you don't know that someone is "great" until you actually try having a proper relationship with her, and thusly it is STILL "trial and error" only on a smaller scale

in this thread we try to turn love into science and fail miserably

 

[MadeInNewJersey]

Erik, that's one of the wisest things you've said in quite some time.

 

[lurch70]

most of the time, you're 100% correct. I'm stellar at playing it suave in the beginning and acting like I just don't give a fuck. The wimmen LOVE me at this point. Sure enough, I'll *ahem* land them, then fall for them, and then they wonder what happened to the mysterious dickhead who didn't care if the chick paid attention to me or not.

I always manage to fuck it up.

i tried this too and most of the time, when I don't really give two shits about a chick, they are all over me.
my problem is when I am into someone, I always drool like Pablo's Dog ... giving away my intentions.
BUT ... if the chick is really into me this is not a factor ... then they love it. and all is good. we go in the sunset skipping to Flakenbach.

this playing the cool, non caring cat role works only if you are interested and the chick is not so sure about you ... but this, even if it eventually makes a connection, leads to eventual failiure.

if two people are into eachother in a genuine way, there is no need for pretend or games.

 

[NAD]

I call too much. It's totally killed a few relationships for me. And it's not like I even enjoy talking on the phone, I just like to say "HEY! I'm alive. Are you?" like 12 times a day. Okay not that much, but at least once every other day.

if two people are into eachother in a genuine way, there is no need for pretend or games.

Had that once, fucked it up. Talking to her again, don't really want it. Neither does she. But I do. And so does she. You can see the confusion I'm in right now. P'OH.