whats your way of picking up girls?
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Darth Kur
Misanthropic Naysayer
I know it was an overly generalizing statement and I didn't mean to offend any of you here. I was just venting my frustrations. You all have to see my point though even if it doesn't not fit every situation. I know you don't HAVE to look a certain way to be "metal". Hell, I've jammed with enough people, and currently am in fact, that do not.
You have to agree that women, in general not always (don't get your panties up in a bunch
), will usually go for the "average guy" type and are, quite literally, frightened and intimidated by the "metal" types. They assume we're all Satan worshipping baby killers and all of that cliché bullshit. Sure "once she gets to know you" they see the difference but society has them so goddamn brainwashed that you don't get a friggen second glance let alone a chance for an in-depth conversation so they can discover the real you.
Anyway...I'm not going to engage on another rant so....sorry to those whose feathers I inadvertently ruffled.
You have to agree that women, in general not always (don't get your panties up in a bunch
), will usually go for the "average guy" type and are, quite literally, frightened and intimidated by the "metal" types. They assume we're all Satan worshipping baby killers and all of that cliché bullshit. Sure "once she gets to know you" they see the difference but society has them so goddamn brainwashed that you don't get a friggen second glance let alone a chance for an in-depth conversation so they can discover the real you.Anyway...I'm not going to engage on another rant so....sorry to those whose feathers I inadvertently ruffled.
TheBigJones47
giant slab of flesh
no harm done, man. i would mostly agree with your assessment, most "normal" girls are scared off by the long-haired, classic metal types. it's a shame, but that's life for ya.
Obyeybyeogone
New Metal Member
I have long (not long enough) hair and dress metalish, but I think I look too much like a girl to scare anyone off 
Bodomania
Member
Darth Kur
Misanthropic Naysayer
frayededges
Quiet, like a slit wrist
Dude... Asheville must SUCK... either that, or you're just WAY too angst-ridden, and that's what scares the girls off. OR, maybe you're after the wrong girls.
Let me put it this way... women are attracted to self-confidence, and a sense of control. A guy who spends all his time focusing on his own refusal to "conform", and his "battle with the world" doesn't interest a woman... he seems self-absorbed and immature. Women want guys who are at peace with themselves and with their surroundings; who they feel safe around, not some fucking nut who's going to be kicking holes in the wall every 20 minutes because he's "true!" or because they "unleashed th' focking fuuuury!"
(And I am NOT implying that YOU are any of these things - but some people are.)
I am totally into metal, man, and no woman I've ever dated has had a problem with it... sure, I've talked to lots of girls and encountered stereotypes, chicks who find out you're a certain way and instantly turn their noses up at you... but to hell with those empty-headed whores, dude! Why would you care what they think? Any woman I date is not going to be bothered by the fact that I like metal, because I don't present it as an issue of "rebellion". I just say, this is part of who I am... it's me... and because I am honest, and not overbearing about it, they accept it - and often even become interested in metal themselves. It's all in how you present it.
Which brings me to my second point:
You don't have to look like a fucking walking corpse to be metal, or non-conformist. I have short hair and work an office job with tons of those contemptible "normal" people you speak of. Personally, I see it as MORE "evil" to simply remain what you are in the midst of what you despise. In this way you exert your influence more - if you consciously make yourself an outsider and are constantly reminding eveyone how "different" you are, your words are not heeded, rather, they are immediately dismissed. But to let your unconventional ideas seep into the general populace with subtlety is the pinnacle of subversity.
As far as meeting women, "Hi there, how are you, my name is..." has worked very well for me, time and time again.
Let me put it this way... women are attracted to self-confidence, and a sense of control. A guy who spends all his time focusing on his own refusal to "conform", and his "battle with the world" doesn't interest a woman... he seems self-absorbed and immature. Women want guys who are at peace with themselves and with their surroundings; who they feel safe around, not some fucking nut who's going to be kicking holes in the wall every 20 minutes because he's "true!" or because they "unleashed th' focking fuuuury!"
(And I am NOT implying that YOU are any of these things - but some people are.)
I am totally into metal, man, and no woman I've ever dated has had a problem with it... sure, I've talked to lots of girls and encountered stereotypes, chicks who find out you're a certain way and instantly turn their noses up at you... but to hell with those empty-headed whores, dude! Why would you care what they think? Any woman I date is not going to be bothered by the fact that I like metal, because I don't present it as an issue of "rebellion". I just say, this is part of who I am... it's me... and because I am honest, and not overbearing about it, they accept it - and often even become interested in metal themselves. It's all in how you present it.
Which brings me to my second point:
You don't have to look like a fucking walking corpse to be metal, or non-conformist. I have short hair and work an office job with tons of those contemptible "normal" people you speak of. Personally, I see it as MORE "evil" to simply remain what you are in the midst of what you despise. In this way you exert your influence more - if you consciously make yourself an outsider and are constantly reminding eveyone how "different" you are, your words are not heeded, rather, they are immediately dismissed. But to let your unconventional ideas seep into the general populace with subtlety is the pinnacle of subversity.
As far as meeting women, "Hi there, how are you, my name is..." has worked very well for me, time and time again.
generally i get a lot of compliments from girls, but somethings wrong. i dunno why, but they never seem very attracted to me at all? Maybe im too friendly. oh well. oh and some girls like the long hair thing, actually most dont really care (well where i live anyway.)
DrBell
Member
I am always quite surprised by the number of crazy looking metal guys at shows that are there with their girlfriends.
I also don't understand why they need to take their girlfriends to these shows...but that's another thing entirely.
NP: morningrise!
I also don't understand why they need to take their girlfriends to these shows...but that's another thing entirely.
NP: morningrise!
Bodomania
Member
You lot have missed a vitally important pick up skill. A razor sharp sense of humour!!! It's irresistable.
My perfect man would have really long hair, bright blue eyes and a wicked sense of humour.
So come then... impress me! lol
My perfect man would have really long hair, bright blue eyes and a wicked sense of humour.
So come then... impress me! lol
Slynt
Lord and Liar
A related problem:
I don't look metal (I cut my hair years ago), actually I kinda use a lot of "in" clothes. But I *am* metal to the core, and I think *that* is more frightening to "normal" girls. Perhaps I should stop playing Emperor albums on late night parties
I don't look metal (I cut my hair years ago), actually I kinda use a lot of "in" clothes. But I *am* metal to the core, and I think *that* is more frightening to "normal" girls. Perhaps I should stop playing Emperor albums on late night parties
Syndrome
Savage Messiah
DrBell
Member
Originally posted by Metalmaster
A related problem:
I don't look metal (I cut my hair years ago), actually I kinda use a lot of "in" clothes. But I *am* metal to the core, and I think *that* is more frightening to "normal" girls. Perhaps I should stop playing Emperor albums on late night parties
Same here. People see me one day wearing preppy clothes, then the next day they see me wearing a shirt with a huge EDDIE, or some other evil looking metal shirt. I don't know what the hell they think. Actually what usually seems to happen is people ignore half of my clothes unless they know me really well. They think I only wear metal shirts, or only wear nice clothes. How observant.
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