Black + White vs Grey

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While discussing friendship in another thread (http://www.ultimatemetal.com/forum/showthread.php?t=215233), I started thinking of an old topic I had discussed many times with a friend who is a realist.

I tend to be an idealist, but have been known to swing either way depending on the problem. This has angered some people over the years, but I prefer to utilise more than one approach to solving problems or interpreting things: one approach is not necessarily the best, and using more than one approach can uncover problems hidden by the other approach.

In relation to the thread "Do you know who your real friends are?" I noticed a comment as quoted below, written by LORD_RED_DRAGON in response to someone saying "real friends are hard to come by".

(Note that this thread is by no means a criticism of LORD_RED_DRAGON or their opinions):

LORD_RED_DRAGON said:
Theory 1
Humans are maleable (pychologicaly) anyone is pschologicaly cappable of doing anything it's just a matter of knowing how to "push" a specific person's "buttons" which are different from person to person (psychological individuality)
when a man is pushing a woman's buttons the man is reffered to as being "abusive" but when a woman is pushing a man's buttons the man is reffered to as being "pussy whipped" (ie the first post of this thread)

Theory 2
"true freinds" don't exist because
all people are either
(A) mostly selfish
(B) mostly altruistic

the selfish person isn't really your freind because sooner or later (or perhaps constantly) the selfish person is going to do something that's selfish to the point of metaphoricaly "screwing" you but the altruistic person isn't really your freind either because he will eventualy (or again perhaps constantly) get himself into a situation where he's got to chose between pissing off one person or pissing off someone else but if he is ALWAYS pleasing you to the point of pissing off others then he is no longer your "freind" because he's become your "slave"

theory 3
theory 1 and theory 2 are BOTH accurate

In my personal opinion, friendships are governed by morals, which often replaces the black and white of ABSOLUTE LOGIC with the grey of EMOTION or IDEALISM.

The above post, then, from LORD_RED_DRAGON expresses his theory from a scientific/mathematical style which is then being applied onto a moral/emotional scenario.

To me, this is akin to trying to place a square peg into a round hole, for the most part it can't be "matched up" and when it's even remotely possible to do so, it can be correlated to a mathematical graph where X never reaches 0, against a timescale of infinity (explained below).

The conversation I had with my realist friend was this: I used his logic against him (by use of drawing a graph in mathematics) to display that my emotional/idealist approach worked in a scenario where his realist approach was not effective (but he believed it could), because ultimately his pure stats/maths approach was FLAWED, i.e. pure logic at it's absolute root does not exist. Science and mathematics are "theories", and through their own equations, not absolute.

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In the graph above, X approaches 0 but for infinity will never reach it (called asymptotic behavior). Thus, the error margin which always exists represents a flaw in the logic, 0 represents absolute logic. Obviously, were there no room for error margins, logical would be successful and thus absolute.

A simple example in real life can be that of a circle: in pure mathematical terms, derived from calculus and so on, we can ascertain that a circle is not actually curved and is in fact a multiple sided object (dimensional factor is irrelevant in the context of my description here). We can zoom in and zoom in and we will find more and more facets on the edges.

Ultimately, in my opinion I feel that pure logic can not exist because even through mathematics an error margin can be proven, thus rendering absolution obsolete.

Apologies for the long windedness of this opener comment to the thread, but I felt it was necessary to go through it in order to ask:

- are you a realist or an idealist?

- how do you feel about a "multiple philosophy" approach as opposed to the single hard line (I personally find the single hard line approach to be herd- & narrow-minded, thus lacking in intelligence [coupled with poor investigative skills])

- how effectively can one style be applied to another? Is it akin to having two images, one blurred and the other crystalline over each other, whereby the result yields a concise image surrounded by uncertainty?

Apologies if I have not conveyed this concisely enough (I think I have though).
 
i mean no dis-respect here but you apparently have way too much free time on your hands
now i really do understand that the concept of freindship isn't really ever going to be totaly "black-and-white" but it really doesn't have to be anywhere near as complex as what you've described either.
as far as what i've seen (and i'm sure others will say my observation is limited/skewed) the stupid people seem to have more freinds than the smart people so i am thinking that maybe this is one of those situations where "the reason that ignorance is bliss because enlightenment is pure hell" (i'm quoting Darien Fawkes) maybe i was totaly right when i jokingly said "people are evil" and i think that the stupid people are just to stupid to see the evilness of humanity that is so clearly visible to the smart people
i guess maybe me saying that "people are evil" might be the same as Richard Dawkins saying that "genes are selfish" but i think people might disagree with this also
 
You've not read my above topic starter properly. This topic isnt about friendship, it is about idealism versus realism.

Of note, it is not about having too much free time on my hands, this forum is for intelligent and mature discussion, thus, this topic is posted.
 
Well that is the most interesting and scientific display of friendship I've ever come across. Morals hey? Hm.

First, can one really be totally or absolutely in either category? I would say I am both. Second, perhaps ethics, or societal standards are a better term than morals. I think friendships are largely governed by societal and ethical standards of conduct, more than anything else. Furthermore, friendship, even love, is strangely based on proximity and convenience more than anything else. WHo are your friends or lovers? People you met at school, or neighbors, or at work. Not people one goes out searching for similar traits and personality as ones self.
 
The Hubster .. You seem to be concluding that logic is flawed because of the way mathematics handles infinity (mathematics and logic are not identical).

Your argument also presupposes we live in an infinite universe, and that mathematics directly maps our reality ..which we know is not always the case especially since there are an infinite number of points between any two things. From that we could prove mathematically what you've shown above ..that it is impossible to actually reach anything.

Also any argument (ie., Lord Red Dragon's) can be put into logical terms .. be it related to emotion or what have you.
 
judas69 said:
The Hubster .. You seem to be concluding that logic is flawed because of the way mathematics handles infinity (mathematics and logic are not identical).

Your argument also presupposes we live in an infinite universe, and that mathematics directly maps our reality ..which we know is not always the case especially since there are an infinite number of points between any two things. From that we could prove mathematically what you've shown above ..that it is impossible to actually reach anything.

Also any argument (ie., Lord Red Dragon's) can be put into logical terms .. be it related to emotion or what have you.
logic = mathematics?!? this doesn't fucking work... see nihilism thread