lets say you send your girlfriend a myspace message about how you just want to relax at home by yourself tonight cause you've had a stressful couple of days and aren't feeling well anyway. you send it while you see she's online and just kind of assume she got it. then after work you go home and get to the relaxin, knowing she's working late and assuming she'll call you when she gets home. after a while you haven't heard from her but you really want a bath and so you take a bath and figure you'll call her when you get out to see what's up.
when you get out of the tub you have a weird voicemail from her so you give her a ring and it turns out she is really upset that you haven't called her earlier (at this point it's 8:30 PM and it's been about 22 hours since you've last spoken to each other) so you have an hour conversation about the situation and how she feels like you aren't as invested and blah blah blah.
now, I'm the type of person who just doesn't think to maintain constant contact with every loved one in my life, and especially when I've had a few incredibly stressful days and am not healthy...but it's not like I wasn't going to call her, it just happened about two hours after her breaking point, I guess. do I have the right to be indignant about her basically ruining my planned night of total relaxation and stressing me out therefor making my illness a little worse? or is she right to be upset that I didn't think to call her during the day (she usually calls me but was waiting for me to call her, which I didn't know, and was having a shitty day as well, which I also didn't know)?
when you get out of the tub you have a weird voicemail from her so you give her a ring and it turns out she is really upset that you haven't called her earlier (at this point it's 8:30 PM and it's been about 22 hours since you've last spoken to each other) so you have an hour conversation about the situation and how she feels like you aren't as invested and blah blah blah.
now, I'm the type of person who just doesn't think to maintain constant contact with every loved one in my life, and especially when I've had a few incredibly stressful days and am not healthy...but it's not like I wasn't going to call her, it just happened about two hours after her breaking point, I guess. do I have the right to be indignant about her basically ruining my planned night of total relaxation and stressing me out therefor making my illness a little worse? or is she right to be upset that I didn't think to call her during the day (she usually calls me but was waiting for me to call her, which I didn't know, and was having a shitty day as well, which I also didn't know)?