if i pay nevermore out of my own pocket will they play a show in san diego?

The age has nothing to do with it.

Just if we were all sleeping with the same chick, but different chicks. Might be unsettling.
 
Uh, not to throw too much reality into this or anything, but last I checked, signed bands 'couldn't' just play when they wanted, even if you paid them, there's a booking company. Perhaps you could try finding that person and offering them one of the lovely female board members as a distraction. You know, that or one of Kevin's omlettes. :D