97reb said:
Go see a drummer at your local store and see if they know of any teachers. I would suggest a jazz teacher for at least a while. May not be your fave type of music, but Jazz drummers kick ass on small sets and a lot of great metal and progressive drummers have taken Jazz lessons.
He may want to wait, and get the fundaments of drumming before he jumps into Jazz. Since it's a hard thing to rap your head around if you have never played before. (Syncopation, four way independence etc.) But your right about great drummers and Jazz lessons, they do seem to go hand in hand.
But yeah, getting a teacher as soon as possible is the best, if you don't you will make mistakes you don't know you are making (like how you hold your sticks for instance) and they will become bad habits.
Don't buy a double kick (which are expensive.) Until you are confident with the drum set that you have bought, and have good control with a single kick and the hi-hats. Take everything one step at a time!
And you don't neccisarily need to get the best, or the most expensive drumset for a starter kit, just something you can afford, and practice on. And you will soon find, after playing for awhile, and once you develop control, that the music you are listening to, really is not that difficult!
Take care!