it doesn't matter if you know the name of the chords whatsoever, the music itself is what counts.
This specific idea is *exactly* why there's so much jerking-off over knowing or not knowing theory. Nobody is arguing that the music is what counts - even Dream Theater, the favorite whipping boy of so many twats who somehow think that knowing theory is equivalent to having nothing but theory involved in songwriting. I know this isn't the exact argument you're trying to make, but I still think there's something missing here.
The relationship between theory and interesting songwriting is *exactly* the same as the relationship between having a grasp of a language and being able to say interesting things in it. The relationship between having an understanding of theory and an understanding of the language of theory (which includes things like scale and chord names) is like that between speaking a language and being able to speak coherently about the language.
Nobody without a serious case of empty-head-secured-firmly-up-ass syndrome is going to claim that knowing how to speak a language fluently and having something interesting to say are equivalent (for a clear counterexample, listen to Noam Chomsky) and to pretend that such a relationship holds in music is positively fucking absurd. Assuming that someone else believes so is a massive insult.
Even someone who doesn't know the names of the chords, scales, progressions, or [insert other favorite tool here] that they're using has to have some basic understanding of the ideas going on, and all theory does is cut away a ton of the clutter and bullshit to make things more accessible - you wouldn't write a novel by looking up every word in the thesaurus and passing every sentence through a spelling- and grammar-checker, because that would be a stupid waste of time compared to what would take to get more confidence and writing ability. This is exactly what music theory does - nothing more, nothing less.
This stupid "theory nerds versus feel players" bullshit has gone on far too long. Both imagined 'sides' of the debate need to take a few steps back and think this through a bit more.
(Yes, I am arguing about an argument, because I'm a meta-asshole who hasn't been drinking enough. Whee. Also, Steven Wilson is most likely better than you, unless you happen to be Devin Townsend or a discoverer of distillation.)
Jeff