This is very generous of you fella, I look forward to having a go at this once I get tired of playing my new 7 string!!
I think your band are brilliant, not often that I find this type of metal so listenable these days. Your shit is tight fella, reminds me of Nevermore in parts but that is never a bad thing (see what I did there?).
Best thing for a break up is time dude, do somethings for you, be selfish, be cool headed, and soon things will start to look better, bit by bit, day by day. What you want is think now is that there will come a day in the future where you will look back and think, how well did I deal with that... very well indeed!!!