It's funny, because Nine Inch Nails has been recently admitted into the rock and roll hall of fame, but because it was during the pandemic, they recently held a sort of band reunion intwerview to celebrate (almost) every bandmate who were involved during the years. The reason I'm bringing this up, because Trent was by all accounts a fucking asshole, and many bandmates left during less than amicable conditions.
For example Trent not only fired Charlie Clouser during a heated argument, but actually threw all his synth stuff out the window, and even years later they talked shit about eachother on the fan forums. He was so pissed about Chris Vrenna leaving, that the next record's first song was literally about Trent singing about someone who abandoned him in a time of need, shouting "WHERE THE FUCK WERE YOU" at the end of the song. Or there was Richard Patrick who complained that the few hudnred bucks he gets for touring the band as a guitar player is kinda fucked up, to which Trent said there's a local pizzeria down the road and they are looking for delivery guys, so maybe take it up as a second job. Trent was also a druggie and an alcoholic at that time, so even on stage it was a regular sight for him to just crawl around on the floor, mess up his lyrics, tackle his bandmates and fuck up their instruments.
STILL they all matured over the years and sit alongside eachother and talked about their time in the band together and whatnot. He actually had them on stage the next night and played a few songs with all of them involved. Unless someone fucked your wife/gf, I don't see a reason why you couldn't just forgive or at least forget, and only remember the good times.
And before you'd put all the blame on Anders, may I remind you that even a few years ago Jesper was still acting like a child. Which is said, because most of the stuff I mentioned about NIN was during their most obnoxious phase, being in their 20s-30s and on the top of the world, doing all the booze, drugs and women they could possibly had the time to do. With IF we are talking about two people who are nearly 50...