time for the quotes i was talking about. they're from the last book i read "musselstranden" by marie hermanson."the mussle shore/beach" it should be in english,but as far as i know it hasn't been translated in english yet.
anyway, nice book
a quote i particularly liked: (translation by me, hence the crappy/strange english):
" There are people who have keys to ourselves. Who can unlock rooms we have always carried inside us, but in which we've never been before. To these people we are related in a special way, and if they are of the correct sex and in somehow the suitable age, we fall in love with them. Otherwise we become spellbound, dependent, whatever one may chose to call it, but it is actually the same thing."