The U.S. has respect. Sure, still mocked at times, but mostly out of spite/frustration. People from various countries will mock U.S. soccer full well knowing that its national team is better than theirs. As it should be. We have a huge population and spend a lot of money on it. The U.S. tieing England gives a little respect, but not much. It didn't happen in some strong way. It was a poorly played game.
Nobody cares about shutting down players. If you shutdown a player and leave yourself vulnerable to somebody else, its not impressive. Players do get props for shutting somebody down. Rooney was not shutdown, so much as he was a non factor as U.S.'s left side was so vulnerable (as it has been the last 2 years). The U.S. is respected by teams as they have shown they can beat very good teams.
For U.S. Soccer as a whole to get some respect they'll have to compete better at the club level. They haven't. MLS soccer plays at a fairly good level now, and because of he $$ in it is starting to attract some of the better central america players, which is good, and potentially it might start being able to leach more players away from the lower tiered european leagues. But that's all sponsorship $$.
I don't care much anymore if the U.S. gets respect. We have a lot of people in this country, and a lot of people playing soccer, so you have to really wonder what is holding the U.S. back from being a top 8 team in the world. Is it the U.S. national soccer system? Perhaps. Maybe its just not as good at building up the juniors. But then the U.S. has done well at the junior level. So maybe they are burning the kids out. I don't know enough about it all. But, while I'll continue to root for the U.S., I'll do so mostly because I like how much it bothers other fans when the U.S. wins. I just can't get into rooting for the U.S., because I'm from the U.S. I don't get personal pride from watching them win. I prefer club level more anyhow, even if the football club level needs some reworking (salary cap please, as well as the frustration of not only having players switch teams, but switch leagues). Frankly, I think that Europe would be better off having a European Premier League, but I guess they figure they mostly have that with the CL.