Social Anxiety

[Demilich]

I have no friends, no social skills, and consciously sabotage any efforts to change this. I love my life

 

[JayKeeley]

Thank god for this forum then.

 

[Demilich]

I'm not even really complaining, I do actually kind of like it like this... things are busy enough as they are. Just bored of the same old topics, and if this generates discussion or turns into some kind of propaganda vehicle then I'll have achieved what I set out to.

 

[MajestikMøøse]

Social anxiety is awesome

except for that part where it's impossible for me to get a girlfriend and stuff.

 

[Demonspell]

I also used to regard social anxiety as more blessing than curse until very recently, and still hate being forced into making small talk...

 

[Furious B]

I read once that one of the causes of dementia in the elderly is a SOCIAL decline. To further add to this, I actually work at an elderly care facility and have found, in my personal experience, that the people that stay in a mentally healthy position are those that are social and outgoing, while the contrary waste away MUCH more rapidly.

Oh, that and there has been proven correlation to extroversion and happiness.

Just some food for thought for ya’ll. Now, off to a party...

~ Social B

 

[Demilich]

I wish I knew people who had more parties. That is one thing I do regret.

 

[Necromunchkin]

What's the line between social anxiety and a working misanthropy in which you have no difficulties interacting with people and such, but you find it as appealing as eating reheated McDonald's leftovers?

 

[Reign in Acai]

Half the people I know as "friends", I wish I had never met.

 

[Demilich]

difficulties interacting with people and such

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answered your own question there.

 

[Necromunchkin]

I dunno. I think it's good that you can be at peace with it, but if you really want to branch out it seems like it would limit possibilities. Maybe it's a reaction to feeling pressure towards "assimilating" as much as the general anxiety of having to interact?

 

[Reign in Acai]

Demilich I thought you had a gf? Just marry her, have a couple kids, and do the good ole family thing. Do you really want friends who leave you holding the bill on your birthday?

If you're really dying for some intellectual intercourse...

Just know, that proper social interaction will take alot of "giving". There are few people I know that I have more than a couple things in common with. You just need to focus on the common ground and build friendships from the floor up. Shit takes years. Most of the people I associate with, are people that I have known for 8-10 yrs. Just let it loose brother. You can't be living in a shell with your sweater draped over your forehead. If you're at a sandwich shop grabbing a bite, shoot the shit with a stranger. If you're pumping gas at the station say hello to the neighbor next to you. Whats the worse that can happen? Being "snubbed"? You never know when a simple "hey how's it going" can lead to something.

 

[Conspicuously Absent]

Well, you've got a party coming up in august do you not? (my place).

haha

 

[NAD]

I have a limited pool of friends these days, and I'm fine with that. Used to have gigantic circles and they were great, but eh.

I think some form of social interaction is important, but I think people that can't handle being alone have a bigger problem. I know a lot of people like that.

 

[Krigloch the Furious]

same here, very limited. and working with old people doesnt help

 

[Dick Sirloin]

Stop smoking weed. No, seriously. It makes you want to stay in + can make you unnecessarily nervous in unknown social situations

 

[Demilich]

Demilich I thought you had a gf? Just marry her, have a couple kids, and do the good ole family thing. Do you really want friends who leave you holding the bill on your birthday?

If you're really dying for some intellectual intercourse...

Just know, that proper social interaction will take alot of "giving". There are few people I know that I have more than a couple things in common with. You just need to focus on the common ground and build friendships from the floor up. Shit takes years. Most of the people I associate with, are people that I have known for 8-10 yrs. Just let it loose brother. You can't be living in a shell with your sweater draped over your forehead. If you're at a sandwich shop grabbing a bite, shoot the shit with a stranger. If you're pumping gas at the station say hello to the neighbor next to you. Whats the worse that can happen? Being "snubbed"? You never know when a simple "hey how's it going" can lead.

Very well stated my good sir. And yeah, I do have a girlfriend. She's the exception... she actually makes it easier for me to have no friends because I just do everything with her. I don't really have a problem with public interaction and shit... problems start when things get more serious.

 

[Nate The Great]

Stop smoking weed. No, seriously. It makes you want to stay in + can make you unnecessarily nervous in unknown social situations

Word.

Beer gets you laid, though. It's a scientific fact.

 

[Krilons Resa]

Fags.

 

[Demilich]

Stop smoking weed. No, seriously. It makes you want to stay in + can make you unnecessarily nervous in unknown social situations

Quite the opposite, actually! At least for me.