Seriously though, I think some fight is okay, I mean if I can hit too, and it's a friendly funny fight and he doesn't beat the shit out of me while I just bleed away. I also expect my boyfriend to be aggressive if it's needed, there's nothing worse than a man who's a chicken, once I went to a gig with my ex and a drunk guy bumped into him and he flung the guy away and the guy got really angry and came back and hit the ex, who was wearing glasses too and the glasses flew away, and I punched the drunk bastard without thinking, and the ex ran out to get the security guard while a fight almost broke out. Now it's funny but I went all pale and shaking with rage, not to mention the shame that he went out and left me in the shit. Fortunately, my sister was there
So maybe yes, I'd rather be a battered partner than have a partner battered in a shitty way. I know some people are more aggressive than others, I guess you bring it from the family
And I can always use a knife if things come to the wurst