which is worse?

[blackeyed]

a) being screwed over by someone you had absolute trust in.
b) regretting screwing someone over who had absolute trust in you.

 

[Bastet]

pfff! tough one...

 

[bleed_black_orchid]

b)

 

[Sethlad]

hmmmm
Regret is a bitch...

But I think that being the screwed rather than the screwie is always worst... if not always most of the time.

 

[Strangelight]

screwing is bad

 

[Dhatura]

Yeah, I think a) is worse, cause fucking someone up leads to guilt but not depression.

 

[Dhatura]

I've felt really bad regret only once in my life -- and that was about a dog. This is something I will never be able to remedy.

We'll see the rest.

 

[Nahemah]

...they hurt the same

Strangelight what is bad?

 

[Strangelight]

screwing

 

[Dhatura]

Fuck, why would they hurt the same? I don't agree, all those nice theories about regret or feeling tewwible about fucking someone up are just bullshit.

 

[Dhatura]

Do you think that fucking Jocky Ewing gives a shit about them?

 

[Strangelight]

I dunno. The Guilt is pretty hardcore. When someone shits on you, you can just write them off and want them to disappear. I'd much rather be guiltless and keep writing people off.

 

[Dhatura]

But guilt is something you can do about, I mean that's something you may be able to decide about, while being fucked over by someone is not your choice, it just happens. That makes me helpless. I can't simply write people off, especially those I've trusted.

 

[Strangelight]

I'd rather be guilt free anyday. If someone betrays you then tick them off, hate them and all that or whatever. At least you're not the gobshite then. Or do you wanna be a gobshite?

 

[Dhatura]

No.

Maybe I'm saying it because I believe I have never screwed anyone over but I've had a good number of days when I felt screwed over.

When I read that Turkish interview I was amazed how you can hate Pybus, for example, funnily enough I watched The Count of Monte Christo that day The two are now linked together.

Sometimes I'd like to take revenge, but I have no ideas how. Unless in a Monte Christo-way.

 

[toolsofthetrade]

a) is common, b) is something u can control

 

[Dhatura]

Yeah, the funny thing is, there are as many people crewed over as those crewing over, hehe, so when the Apocalypse is here it won't mean a thing, there'll be perfect equilibrium

 

[cedarbreed]

a) being screwed over by someone you had absolute trust in. is worse
though b) is very unpleasant.
I'd rather be a wolf than a sheep... Just try to avoid doing b) but shit happens...

 

[Sethlad]

Aye...

Being screwed always hurts the most because 1 - it's not your option and you don't control it and 2 - it often comes as a complete surprise and utter shock, it's not something you can recover from very easily.

However, the weight on someone's conscience when screwing someone over, and is aware of it (many people convince themselves they're oh so wholesome and just), is sometimes borderline unbearable.
Still, it's something you can control and you can prepare yourself psycological to do it, and think of the words you're going to say when do the "terrible deed". This is in the cases when you screw someone over but you don't want to deliberately hurt them a lot... if one's intent is to hurt the other party with extreme prejudice, one is, by definition, guilt free and doesn't give a crap... thus, no regrets or heavy conscience...

Human relations... complicated matter as always...

 

[bleed_black_orchid]

If you get screwed over your the victim and people can cope with being the victim and often you bounce back a little wiser with minor scars but knowing that u truly hurt sumbody that didnt deserve it is horrible guilt can eat away at you and theres nothing worse than knowing your a twat and you was wrong.