Who the heck are you guys?
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I'm not sure if this is the appropriate thread.
Not sure why, but that makes me really happy. No...wait...I know why.
Krilons Resa
Jerry's married?!
Krilons Resa
Jerry's married?!
Dead_Lioness
Godless
Dead_Lioness
Godless
I knew I wanted kids at about 23. Bear in mind, I was still single and living alone at the time.I even made an inquiry for adoption (this was a time when there were thousands upon thousands of kids being orphaned in old Romania under that Ceacescu dictator). The adoption agency told me that it was hard enough adopting being married in a strong relationship let alone being a single parent. D'oh.
So anyway, left the UK for the US at 28, moved in with my then-girlfriend, Heather, we got married a couple of years later. We'd both already traveled the world over a couple of times so we were ready to settle down. Had our first kid, Chloe, in 2002 and then Sebastian in 2004. Both pregnancies were planned to the nth degree.
One of each and now we are done!
That said, when we see all these natural disasters in the world, like that earthquake in Pakistan, or the tsunami in SE Asia, leaving thousands of young kids orphaned, we have the urge to adopt one. Maybe one day, if we pine for a third, we'll adopt a 2 year old, but for now, we're good.
The wife is cool about me going to metal festivals etc without her (she's ok with metal but I doubt HC, etc is her scene much) so me going alone works well for everyone. It also gives me some time to get away and have a break. (Wifey's used to me traveling anyway since I'm an IT/business strategy consultant for a global management consultancy, and she used to be one herself so there's no surprises.)
Oh yeah, one last point: we timed our kids accordingly, meaning if I was 40 and still without kids, I would have surely given up on the idea. There is no way in hell I would want to be 50 with a 10 year old child. I don't want to be going through my 40's still changing diapers, dropping kids off at pre-school, etc.
I'm actually looking forward to traveling and stuff WITH the kids! The other day, wife and daughter, who's now 5, went to the Metropolitan Museum of Art in NYC. (My daughter is into art and goes to pre-school art academy). I'll probably take both kids to the Natural History this summer so we can start teaching evolution over creationism. And we've already done Sea World and Hawaii.
We also own houses in NY and London so we go over to Europe every other year. In a couple of years, we'll go to other places in Europe so the kids can appreciate all that good historic stuff, like Paris, Rome, and Athens.
I don't know if this all sounds like I'm justifying my situation or anything, hah,
...and I loved this post.
Not that I'm all crazy about kids or about wanting kids at all, but I love people who know how to balance social life and still take care of their kids properly.
If one day I'll have a kid(s)-- I do hope that I will never become one of those mommies who can only talk about baby toys and diapers...
Good balance is what I wish to have, IF again, I will decide to have kids.
TBH, the only reason I want kids is that so I won't be 80 years old and alone... I know it may sound dumb, or selfish, but that's how I feel.
It makes me sad to see old people in homes with no families.... errr... :/
Conspicuously Absent
Linguistically Confused
...and I loved this post.
I love people who know how to balance social life and still take care of their kids properly.
I do hope that I will never become one of those mommies who can only talk about baby toys and diapers...
I agree on both points. Mr and Mrs. Pooped on Sinai really have their heads on straight and thats good to see in this day and age. A proper balance.
And nothing is more annoying that these parents who only talk about their child CONSTANTLY. Its the only topic they have (they lose all others, aka social life). Baby pictures on every surface and every conversation becomes about their child or things for their child.
uke:
dorian gray
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Unrelated, but children rule. Well, mine does anyway. I can understand why people have several of them - they are hilarious and they give tremendous meaning to an otherwise meaningless existence.
But I'm with CA though - I cringe when people feel it's necessary to shove pics of their children/grandchildren in your face. Maybe it's a Southern thing - I don't know - but it happens all the time. And EVERY SINGLE TIME it's a group of really unattractive, empty-stare, Appalachian-face people in the pic. Maybe I'm a dick, but I really don't want to see pics of people's offspring.
But I'm with CA though - I cringe when people feel it's necessary to shove pics of their children/grandchildren in your face. Maybe it's a Southern thing - I don't know - but it happens all the time. And EVERY SINGLE TIME it's a group of really unattractive, empty-stare, Appalachian-face people in the pic. Maybe I'm a dick, but I really don't want to see pics of people's offspring.
Dead_Lioness
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That's another thing I always think about when thinking about having kids: EVERYBODY who has them says its the best thing that ever happened to them...
The way I see it: "everybody" can't be wrong, right? (including my brother, who is a high-tech career fanatic, who swore he'll never have kids and that he doesn't like them, and then: oops
his wife got pregnant: and you should hear him now... he's a 180 degrees a different person with 2 kids and a great career person AND a great family guy.. so hey...)
The way I see it: "everybody" can't be wrong, right? (including my brother, who is a high-tech career fanatic, who swore he'll never have kids and that he doesn't like them, and then: oops
his wife got pregnant: and you should hear him now... he's a 180 degrees a different person with 2 kids and a great career person AND a great family guy.. so hey...)
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You really believe that if it were not for your child you would have a meaningless existence? So your entire childhood, adolescence, and life until your parenthood was an inconsequential preamble you'd rather have been without? I'm not being critical, it's just not a world view I can relate to so am interested in what you think makes a childless existence meaningless, and how having children gives it meaning.
And nothing is more annoying that these parents who only talk about their puppy CONSTANTLY. Its the only topic they have (they lose all others, aka social life). Puppy pictures on every surface and every conversation becomes about their puppy or things for their puppy.
Completely guilty at the moment.
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Nah, I meant being an adult seems pretty meaningless. To think you're anything more than a cog in the wheel of society is a delusion. Meaning is a subjective description. My son gives meaning to my life because I feel like he gives me a good reason to exist. I realize that's just a biological imperative and I'm cool with that.
Russell
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Amen to that.
From my perspective happiness and fulfilment are the most important things, and its great to hear fatherhood has provided that for you
Hell Mike
fuck melodic black metal
From my perspective happiness and fulfilment are the most important things, and its great to hear fatherhood has provided that for you
Nailed it yo.
I can't for the life of me figure out what would give happiness and fulfillment on a regular, endless daily basis other than raising children to good adults.
Making art of different kinds and all of that is ace, sure, but who the hell keeps making truly fulfilling stuff for 35 years? Those are few and far between, and those who have only that are rarely happy people. Same goes for most other things. Some day I'll be the world's greatest father.
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I'd like to figure out a way to be constantly high on alcohol, caffeine, dopamine, and testosterone all at the same time.
Krilons Resa
Jerry's married?!
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Krilons Resa
Jerry's married?!
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