All you've gotta do is find a chick who plays an instrument.
At least, in my experience.
I mean, neither of us only listen to metal, but jazz, prog, RIO, pop, etc. So it's like, cool I guess?
But thanks for all the recommendations. I'm trying to come up with a songlist... I know I'm going to include Nokturnal Mortum, Abigor, Drudkh, Azrael, Immortal, Deathspell Omega, Burzum, Taake, Absu, Aeternus, Ashen Light, Enslaved, Summoning, Nagelfar, Moonblood, Dub Buk, and possibly Leviathan.
Any suggestions for songs from these bands that are very representative of their sounds, but very unique and somewhat accessable. For Nokturnal Mortum, I am using "The Call of the Aryan Spirit".
Just make sure you tell me what album it's on. And make sure it's not longer than 10 minutes just so I can fit the stuff on a CD or two.