Although I've always like the song Comatose, after hundreds of listenings, I think I can now relate to it. The looses pieces of my thoughts that have accumulated since the first listening have finally come together. Emotionally, I've always understood the song, intellectually... it just takes longer I guess.
In my mid 20's I had a fast a furious relationship which ended abruptly. The woman just stopped it and lost any feelings she had, although she had started the relationship. A good chunk of my heart and soul were forever ripped from me. I had exposed my emotions and heart to a person and was betrayed.
To compensate for this I hid my feelings for about everything. I never "stood" for anything anymore, I took the middle ground. I seldom smiled (so I'm told). Basically, I let no one, including myself know how I really felt about things.
This was compounded by the fact that I have never really gotten along with my father. As a teenager, I thought that he really liked it when I showed that he was "getting to me". And usually, his "getting to me" was basically him trying to "break me". So, at an early age I learned to hide my feelings.
Then I met the woman that would be my wife. After my previous relationship, I was very cautious. Although it wasn't love at first sight (no way I would let that happen), I had that tingly feeling that I was going to marry her (the honest truth). We dated for awhile, and I never said "I love you".
One day we had a discussion, it was a turning point for me. I had been resisting my feelings and resisting her influence over me to be a person that I thought I wasn't. I couldn't let go of my shield. I remember we were sitting in the sun in lawn chairs on the driveway. She ended up leaving. I sat there and got pretty emotional, and just couldn't imagine my life without her, not knowing how she would be... where she would be.
She had been gone for about 30 minutes when I got in my car and drove to her apartment and said I didn't want it to end. However, I had only partially let down my shield. I still had a hard time saying "I love you", and rarely did.
Well, we got married and a couple years later and had a girl, Kaileigh Rose (yes after the song Kaylee). Although it wasn't easy, my baby girl broke through even more of my shield and the words "I love you" came much more easy and frequent.
Now my girl is 10, my son is 8 and I can freely admit my love for them and my wife. But even now I still have a shield since I still don't admit my deep (soul deep) dependence on them, and I hate getting mad and telling my family how I "really" feel. This has cause some problems for me in the form of depression, which I will not combat with prescription drugs (tried, didn't like), but by dropping my defense, slowly but surely. I feel better and my periods of depression are becoming less frequent.
This has been a long post, but being a person that likes to talk about emotionally satisfying music (go figure that one), I just wanted to put it out there.
I guess some comas can last for years, but if the people you love see you through it, you can eventually get out of it.
Thanks for reading... and thanks for the song Enchant.
Extra point question: Anyone like the Cranberries?
Really odd thought of the day: Wouldn't it be neat for Ted and Dolores O'Riordan to sing a duet? (Yes I really had that thought today while listening to the Cranberries song, "Dying In The Sun".)
EDIT: specified what kind of drugs
In my mid 20's I had a fast a furious relationship which ended abruptly. The woman just stopped it and lost any feelings she had, although she had started the relationship. A good chunk of my heart and soul were forever ripped from me. I had exposed my emotions and heart to a person and was betrayed.
To compensate for this I hid my feelings for about everything. I never "stood" for anything anymore, I took the middle ground. I seldom smiled (so I'm told). Basically, I let no one, including myself know how I really felt about things.
This was compounded by the fact that I have never really gotten along with my father. As a teenager, I thought that he really liked it when I showed that he was "getting to me". And usually, his "getting to me" was basically him trying to "break me". So, at an early age I learned to hide my feelings.
Then I met the woman that would be my wife. After my previous relationship, I was very cautious. Although it wasn't love at first sight (no way I would let that happen), I had that tingly feeling that I was going to marry her (the honest truth). We dated for awhile, and I never said "I love you".
One day we had a discussion, it was a turning point for me. I had been resisting my feelings and resisting her influence over me to be a person that I thought I wasn't. I couldn't let go of my shield. I remember we were sitting in the sun in lawn chairs on the driveway. She ended up leaving. I sat there and got pretty emotional, and just couldn't imagine my life without her, not knowing how she would be... where she would be.
She had been gone for about 30 minutes when I got in my car and drove to her apartment and said I didn't want it to end. However, I had only partially let down my shield. I still had a hard time saying "I love you", and rarely did.
Well, we got married and a couple years later and had a girl, Kaileigh Rose (yes after the song Kaylee). Although it wasn't easy, my baby girl broke through even more of my shield and the words "I love you" came much more easy and frequent.
Now my girl is 10, my son is 8 and I can freely admit my love for them and my wife. But even now I still have a shield since I still don't admit my deep (soul deep) dependence on them, and I hate getting mad and telling my family how I "really" feel. This has cause some problems for me in the form of depression, which I will not combat with prescription drugs (tried, didn't like), but by dropping my defense, slowly but surely. I feel better and my periods of depression are becoming less frequent.
This has been a long post, but being a person that likes to talk about emotionally satisfying music (go figure that one), I just wanted to put it out there.
I guess some comas can last for years, but if the people you love see you through it, you can eventually get out of it.
Thanks for reading... and thanks for the song Enchant.
Extra point question: Anyone like the Cranberries?
Really odd thought of the day: Wouldn't it be neat for Ted and Dolores O'Riordan to sing a duet? (Yes I really had that thought today while listening to the Cranberries song, "Dying In The Sun".)
EDIT: specified what kind of drugs