Confidence

[Russell]

Are you a confident person? Do you act confidently but really you're not? Do u have low self-esteem?

I've just come to realise how scared I am of many over-confident people and many situations despite the fact I act with reasonable confidence most of the time. Is any one else like this?

 

[Brutalizer]

I have a low self-esteem. I feel uncertain about most things in life.
Call me chicken shit! Hehe
I never act or play over-confident i think. I am myself all the time.
There is no need to play over-confident. If i am, it just comes naturally...

Any suggestions how to get a better self-esteem?

 

[Russell]

Originally posted by Brutalizer
I am myself all the time

ah same here, but when I don't know people I do act slightly differently, its just another side of me Basicallya more confident one

U could look in the mirror and tell usrelf urwonderful every day But that would probably just give you a large ego rather than higher self esteem!

 

[_Transparent_]

nice to see you post a thread yourself, i cant remember the last one you started gramps. anyway:

yeah im confident, i feel like i can do anything anytime. im not embarresed and i can be very blunt. anyway bla.

 

[SentencedToBurn]

i dont have a low self esteem considering most of the people im around (at school anyhow) are idiots. i dont have an ego at all though. i prefer not to draw attention.

 

[Brutalizer]

Originally posted by godisanathiest


ah same here, but when I don't know people I do act slightly differently, its just another side of me Basicallya more confident one

Yeah, me too. It's obvious that you gotta act somehow different to people you don't know...than to your friends for an example, with whom you can act weird with! Got my point?

U could look in the mirror and tell usrelf urwonderful every day But that would probably just give you a large ego rather than higher self esteem!

Sure, i'll give it a try! I'll inform you in some weeks then, when my ego is THIS BIG!

 

[Jannet]

I am confident. I'm also pushing 30 and have a child so I don't have any time to have low self-esteem. I think that is a teen-age phase. I had it when I was a teen-ager, and I think it stems from being unsure of yourself and not knowing where you fit in this world. Once you're older, you're like, "I don't give a rat's ass what anyone thinks." And besides, it seems like it takes too much effort being sad than happy.

 

[Opet]

Ah-huh. You called upon "one of those" questions. I think some of you will be able to relate to what I feel where others will think it's pretty shallow. Hells bells! Here goes. My confidence level (only around people I don't know) varies by looks. I know. How foul of me, but it's the truth. I try to stop myself when I feel it coming on, but when I see someone who is beautiful, my confidence level goes down...and vise versa.

This is one of those personal demons that we all have deep down. It's that part of me that knows how I'd like to feel/be about it, but can't quite figure out how to change the way my brain registers it first.

All in all, the happier you are with yourself, the healthier your confidence will be. Really cool friends help too when you need a boost in morale.

"I am so alone, so cold.
My heart is to scarred to glow."

 

[Jannet]

Just remember that the person you may think is beautiful, in another part of the world, she is viewed as ugly.

 

[Belial]

I have a low self-esteem, and I'm not very confident. I wish I could have more faith in myself, it would make things so much easier. I get really irritated by people who are really confident, because they tend to be the first to make unwarrented assumptions about everything, and expect too much out of everything.

 

[Opet]

Jannet: Just remember that the person you may think is beautiful, in another part of the world, she is viewed as ugly.

Sure. Did I say otherwise? I'm not sure what you're getting at. That here I'd have more confidence meeting this guy but overseas I wouldn't? No. That's not right. Hm. What are you trying to say...in other words please?

Unless of course, you weren't talking to me.

 

[Jannet]

And another thing, it doesn't help writing sad poems about what losers human beings are, how worthless they are, hearing music that is CONSTANTLY talking about death, killing, war, blood, etc. It is a fact that we emulate the music we listen to, whether we think so or not, and people who constantly listen to negativity over and over and over start reflecting that, upon others and themselves. I personally take breaks from listening to black, death, grind, and give myself an 80's pop pill, you know, like Mr. Mister, Big Country, REM, A-Ha, etc.

 

[Jannet]

No, that's not what I meant. What I meant was when you look at someone that is more "beautiful than you," and your self esteem goes down the tubes, remember that in other parts of the world that same person looks like the rear end of an elephant. So graft the elephant's rear end on their face, that should help you

 

[Jannet]

I'm talking about in other people's perspective, not if you relocate to another part of the world, they'll look ugly. I'm saying that in another part of the world, people in that area view the person you think is beautiful as butt ugly. I see where the confusion came in, sorry.

 

[SentencedToBurn]

A-Ha?????? takkkkkeeeeeeeee ooooooooonnnnnnnnnn mmmeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee- take on me, tttttaaaaakkkkkeeeeeeeeee mmmmeeeeeeeeeee oooooooonnnnnnnnn
wow brings back some memories of the new age 80's. what a horrible depressing time that way... hahah

 

[Jannet]

Oh, nononono, not depressing at ALL!!! I LOVED new wave music!!! I was like, totally into it, it was fun, always positive, and upbeat. Definitely NOT depressing music. I am still a big fan of A-Ha, Spandue Ballet, Inxs, etc...hehehe. I have what you call a way diversified taste. I can go from Pat Benatar and Fleetwood Mac to Demoncy, Yattering and Judas Iscariot. So go figure

 

[tenebrose]

I have bad self-esteem under certain circumstances, but most of the time I have a fairly high self-esteem. Over all, I'm a kind of forceful person... or as a friend of mine says, I have a "prescence".

I used to feel really bad about myself, but years of introspection has made me realise what's really important and why should I put so much energy into the rest... there's obviously a reason all my friends come to me for advice and dump their problems on me... but that doesn't mean I have to keep everything inside and break down every few months. I philosophise and introspect too much to feel really bad about myself these days.

 

[Blackspirit]

Originally posted by Jannet
I personally take breaks from listening to black, death, grind, and give myself an 80's pop pill, you know, like Mr. Mister, Big Country, REM, A-Ha, etc.

Originally posted by Jannet
I am still a big fan of A-Ha, Spandue Ballet, Inxs, etc...hehehe. I have what you call a way diversified taste. I can go from Pat Benatar and Fleetwood Mac to Demoncy, Yattering and Judas Iscariot.

OK, some of those "bands" scare me....

People say I look and act very confident.
They think I have the best of selfesteems, but I don't >P
I never act like I'm confident when I'm not, it's just my
way of being. The first time I opened up to one of my friends
way back she replayed with "and I though you were such
a confident person!!!" ) Maybe I am quite confident,
but I feel "low"....

Some people are so confident I feel like I could never talk
to them. They are worlds appart from me....

My self-esteem can be really low, but very high as well, at
times ) It depends on the situation. But if I am feeling
really low I am very good at writing my way out of it. I can
write a diary sort-of-thing, a letter or anything else, and I
end up having found a way to solve the problem. I get this
boost of self-esteem, and it feels great )

 

[Jannet]

Demoncy and Judas Iscariot would scare anybody..hahahahaa

 

[Russell]

Ok, I can't be arsed to write the names above the quotes so search through for ur own

nice to see you post a thread yourself, i cant remember the last one you started gramps

Well, cheers ouchy You're blunt? Really, I'd never noticed

than to your friends for an example, with whom you can act weird with! Got my point?

Hell yeah, u should see how I behave with my girlfriend, A complete freak!

I am confident. I'm also pushing 30 and have a child so I don't have any time to have low self-esteem. I think that is a teen-age phase. I had it when I was a teen-ager, and I think it stems from being unsure of yourself and not knowing where you fit in this world. Once you're older, you're like, "I don't give a rat's ass what anyone thinks." And besides, it seems like it takes too much effort being sad than happy.

I disagree very strong. It gets on my tits majorly when people cal things phases Hehe, well only slightly, but I know many adults who have low self esteem, not only teenagers. I couldn't care less what most people think of me, there's a difference between caring what people think and having no confidence, while linked they are not inherently the same

My confidence level (only around people I don't know) varies by looks. I know. How foul of me, but it's the truth. I try to stop myself when I feel it coming on, but when I see someone who is beautiful, my confidence level goes down...and vise versa.

I can see what your saying, and I can see why you feel that, but that has no effect with me - its if the people I don't know are really confident rather than beautiful that I get scared... Neway, you have nothing to worry about in that department, so don't let it affect u