jakethedog
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Well so many people who are part of a culture identify themselves almost as a member of that group, rather than they do as an individual. I know so many people who do this.
Of said groups, the "metalheads" were the only ones who ever were really be able to accept me and, despite being slightly afraid of some of the music at first (and really, just some) I soon became a metalhead. Before this time, I was miserable... I would be lying if I said this music didn't save my life. Despite this, I still think of myself as an individual - though I don't think a lot of people really think this way. I have short hair, don't drink like a fish, make sure to shower regularly, and have a generally cheerful demeanor. To an outsider, you can't tell much about the kind of music I listen to... as a matter of fact, when I tell most people, they get surprised.
Yet so many people, particularly those in the "mainstream" crowd, their entire lives are dictated by what their friends tell them to do. These are the people who are high social monitors, who spend inordinate amounts of time thinking about what other people will think of them, when they could easily be using this mental energy to actually think about something far more constructive (or perhaps not, since most of these people don't tend to be very smart...)
I feel this conversation is completely going in a different direction than it originated, and perhaps I'm driving it that way (in which case, I apologize), but these are things that I think about on a daily basis and never really get to talk about with anyone, seeing most people I know are too caught up in their day-to-day lives to think on this profound of a level.
Of said groups, the "metalheads" were the only ones who ever were really be able to accept me and, despite being slightly afraid of some of the music at first (and really, just some) I soon became a metalhead. Before this time, I was miserable... I would be lying if I said this music didn't save my life. Despite this, I still think of myself as an individual - though I don't think a lot of people really think this way. I have short hair, don't drink like a fish, make sure to shower regularly, and have a generally cheerful demeanor. To an outsider, you can't tell much about the kind of music I listen to... as a matter of fact, when I tell most people, they get surprised.
Yet so many people, particularly those in the "mainstream" crowd, their entire lives are dictated by what their friends tell them to do. These are the people who are high social monitors, who spend inordinate amounts of time thinking about what other people will think of them, when they could easily be using this mental energy to actually think about something far more constructive (or perhaps not, since most of these people don't tend to be very smart...)
I feel this conversation is completely going in a different direction than it originated, and perhaps I'm driving it that way (in which case, I apologize), but these are things that I think about on a daily basis and never really get to talk about with anyone, seeing most people I know are too caught up in their day-to-day lives to think on this profound of a level.