Overly whiney people, regardless of gender, can be extremely annoying. I agree. (In fact, pretty much the only thing that pisses me off about today's feminism is this: "Booooo-hooooooo

we're all poor little helpless victims of the evil men!") But:
Maybe YOU are able to respect a talented female (metal) musician. And that's cool.
However it seems like the music industry is full of complete pricks who apparently are too fucking cool to take a woman seriously even if she's ten times more talented than them! Or maybe they are afraid of being outdone by a chick, who knows.
Of course, there are girls who wanna play rock or metal "only to be cool", or who take advantage of their looks to get by. But they are a disgrace to women in music.