@Lurch

[dorian gray]

Tall one: My apologies for never sending regards for your recent bad news. I hope you guys will try again soon.

Not that this helps any, but my friends had a child with anencephaly (partial or no head) and of course, she had to abort, but she was so far along that she had to be induced and give actual birth to him.

 

[swizzlenuts]

Ditto at Lurch.

She's going to hell; God specifically made the boy like that.

 

[Tide In Mind Out]

Not sure what happened but I'm assuming that Lurch and his wife lost the baby, which is beyond terrible. Condolences x 1,000,000

 

[General Zod]

Wow... first I'm hearing about this. You have mine and Paula's sincerest condolences.

Zod

 

[Krilons Resa]

my condolences as well, my man.

 

[lurch70]

thanks guys ... but i would rather not have a thread made out of it

 

[Dark One]

I am so deeply sorry to hear about this lurch. If you need conversation of any kind (here, email, you name it) to help you keep your mind off things, you can count on me.

Jason

 

[lurch70]

thanks Jason ... it's been 2 months to the day since it happened. The baby was developing fine and we have an answer as to why it ended early.
luckily it is something that can be prevented next time around (at least that's what the docs say) so we'll try again in a few months once our heads are clear.
its been tough nonetheless and I am sure we will be sitting on pins and needles every day the next time around.

what's amazing is once we told people we know, we kept hearing similar stories from others, a lot of them ... i guess its something people don't talk about unless you're in the same boat.

 

[dorian gray]

Miscarriages are quite common. I didn't know this either until we started having children. Many times miscarriages occur and the woman doesn't even know she's pregnant.

 

[Russell]

My condolences Lurch - a guy I work with lost his child at term a few weeks back too, so sorry to hear you have had to go through the same recently.

 

[Dark One]

what's amazing is once we told people we know, we kept hearing similar stories from others, a lot of them ... i guess its something people don't talk about unless you're in the same boat.

It is indeed more common than you might imagine (not that this would make it easier by any means of course).

My sister lost her baby (the only time she's been pregnant) about 5 years ago. She was near the end and was actually checking into the hospital for her delivery. While she was in the hospital, she noticed that something was wrong and immediately informed the doctors. The baby had strangled itself on the umbilical cord just days (or even hours) before delivery. Needless to say, it was devastating. We had a particularly tough sibling rivalry growing up and had drifted apart in our early adulthood years, but I truly realized when that happened just how much I love my sister.

Here's to hoping you have another opportunity when you two are ready, and that it's one of the happiest and most rewarding events of your lives.

Jason

 

[Russell]

Not that this helps any, but my friends had a child with anencephaly (partial or no head) and of course, she had to abort, but she was so far along that she had to be induced and give actual birth to him.

Woah, sorry to hear it, that really sucks - usually anencephaly is picked up in scans early enough to avoid late term abortion or carrying to term.

In this country mothers have a blood test between 12 and 15 weeks that gives a likely risk of foetal abnormalities (Spina Bifida, Anencephaly) and genetic disorders (Downs Syndrome, Edwards Syndrome, Trisomy 13). For a year I worked in a lab doing the immunoassays for the blood tests, and they're really quite useful. Do you have that option there?

 

[General Zod]

what's amazing is once we told people we know, we kept hearing similar stories from others, a lot of them ... i guess its something people don't talk about unless you're in the same boat.

It seems like this is the case whenever situations like these come into your life.

Zod

 

[lurch70]

In this country mothers have a blood test between 12 and 15 weeks that gives a likely risk of foetal abnormalities (Spina Bifida, Anencephaly) and genetic disorders (Downs Syndrome, Edwards Syndrome, Trisomy 13). For a year I worked in a lab doing the immunoassays for the blood tests, and they're really quite useful. Do you have that option there?

yes of course, all was fine. we were past this stage.

 

[skeptik]

My aunt had a miscarriage maybe 5 or 6 years ago. She and my uncle had been trying to have a kid for several years, and had several failed attempts at in vitro fertilization throughout the course of a few years before she was finally able to get pregnant. Six months erk into the pregnancy, she went into induced labor and the pregnancy was terminated. I don't know the exact circumstances of what caused this, but obviously the baby didn't make it. It was pretty devastating for them because they tried so long, and at this point it doesn't look like it will ever happen. The baby had a proper burial and everything.

 

[Russell]

yes of course, all was fine. we were past this stage.

Sorry, this was actually directed at Dorian (as this would pick up anencephaly), I had no intention to pry into your situation! Just apparently, random other people... Apologies that wasn't clear, I'm sure it's the last thing you want to talk about. But I'm sorry to hear the triple test didn't work.

 

[lurch70]

yeah, everything came back fine on the final tests. my sprint swimmers are fine and hers as well ... this was not a genetic issue but rather her being able to hold the fetus as it was growing.
there was a weakness in her body from a prior operation that caused it. but luckily now that we know about it, it has a pretty common workaround for next time, although a lot of rest will be needed on her end and she is not
the type to sit still for long. this could be the biggest challenge for next time.

i can't believe i just went into all those details ...

 

[dorian gray]

What asshole started this thread?!

 

[Guthrum]

Sorry to hear that, Lurch. That happened to my sister.

 

[Crimson Velvet]

Chronologically, I was sandwiched between a older and younger sibling, both stillborn. True story!