Making friends as an adult male

[SonOfNun]

I haven't really had friends with common interests since perhaps high school if not elementary school. When I was in high school I got my best friend into heavier forms of metal than "teh nu" and we went to shows in addition to just being dude bros. We've lived in different states now for years and I have a family so we don't see each other much. Other than that, I've never had a friend since childhood that I share any common interests with. I met tons of people in college that are almost all just Facebook acquaintances now because that stuff was shallow for the most part. Part of the problem is that my interests are a little obscure, but I can't even find non-internet people to have substantive conservations with about things like history. For the most part I'm content to just hang out with my wife and kids, but every once in awhile I think it would be nice to have a male friend to talk metal, religion, history, etc. with.

 

[theoden236]

 

[Tide In Mind Out]

Not much has changed since my last post except that I'd say I've gained three really good friends from work, and I've been really thankful for them lately. Two of the three are guys, of course.

 

[Reign in Acai]

Pretty simple to make chums imo. I dont know if I ever talked about this shit on this forum, maybe in E-Bortion's Fighting Game Thread. Anyhow I got really serious between 2011-2015 in the Mortal Kombat offline scene. Met a shit ton of chums, that I invited on over to my crib for grind sessions on the regular. Went to countless tournaments, even travelling a few times out of state. Never made a dime (this is before e-sports blew up, and the payouts were paltry.) Never won a tourney, but I did compete against the highest level fooqs at that time. Fought SonicFox in my hotel room for a small set. Good kid.

What's my point in prattling on about this nerdlinging experience? You lack friends in life? Find a social activity, and the friends WILL come. You're not going to find one chum online. (Maybe on RC if there's a fest down the road. In which time your friendship will last all of one day/wknd) If ye truly want to build irl friendships jump into the fire.

Hobbies=Friends

 

[Ellestin]

Hobbies=Friends

I met a couple decent blokes through poker. Don't play anymore but still sporadically in touch. Also plenty of enduring relations through football and music* has provided about 95% of the people in my contact list, so yeah, I would second that quote.

* music doesn't qualify as hobby per se cause you know, black metal ist krieg and so forth