Males and Females

[Vimana]

It doesn't sound like something worth sustaining long-distance, then, if getting laid seems to be worth more than speaking, connecting, etc.

 

[Zephyrus]

That's why this has been a low-key relationship the whole time. At least from my perspective it's almost been a friends-with-benefits arrangement but with the corollary that we don't fuck other people. We communicate sparingly, yet the times we are together (once or twice a week) we're all over each other. She never developed a dependency and neither did I. It's mature and a nice thing to have, free of illusions, and I'll keep it going for as long as she wants.

 

[Zephyrus]

And I read your veiled criticism in that post. The nature of my field (or higher academia in general) is that I simply cannot expect to find women who are both my type intellectually and physically. The most authentic and fulfilling life is one that strikes a balance between Apollo and Dionysus. I am Apollo in the work I do by day, and Dionysus in the pleasures I enjoy at night.

 

[Vimana]

I didn't mean to criticize. I don't see anything inherently bad in the way your relationship works.

 

[Dak]

The most authentic and fulfilling life is one that strikes a balance between Apollo and Dionysus.

Objectively speaking, of course.

 

[V.V.V.V.V.]

I am just gonna assume that Jeremy rejects objectivism

 

[King Richard]

wat

 

[Srontgorrth]

Cause being able to speak swahili with your partner over the phone (with a few breaks for texting in sanskrit) is at least as good as sex, amirite?

Oh the lulz

 

[SentinelSlain]

O FUCK

 

[Master_Yoda77]

Driving about 5 hours to the University of Missouri to meet that OKC girl. Spending the night in her dorm as well (she has a spare bunk). No idea what we are going to do. I am worried though that she misreads my signals, although she is the one that encouraged me to spend the night instead of driving back home.

 

[unknown]

wear rubber dude

 

[waif]

She definitely wants to bone.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

I don't know if I'd even be comfortable boning her. I kinda want to take my virginity to my grave. I don't think she is that type of girl though, because she asked me why I wanted to drive so far, alluding to the idea that I just want to fuck her. I told her that I just wanted to hang out and stuff.

 

[Master_Yoda77]

Part of me wants to definitely, but I just feel that sex is something that you should do once you've really gotten to know someone.

 

[waif]

Dude, you seriously can't be willing to drive that far and not want to lay some pipe in this bitch. That's just...strange.

Seriously.

Part of me wants to definitely, but I just feel that sex is something that you should do once you've really gotten to know someone.

If you turn sex down, you will regret it. If you accept it, you will not regret it. End of story.

 

[arg]

jesus christ dude just do it, we are all rooting for you, we wanna see an end to your suffering and virginity

 

[Zephyrus]

Part of me wants to definitely, but I just feel that sex is something that you should do once you've really gotten to know someone.

I'm on the bang-that-chick bandwagon but some things to consider...

1. Whose idea was it to drive 5 hours? Was it completely yours? She may only want you to stay the night because it's silly to drive ten hours in a single day just for a day visit.

2. Does she know you're a virgin?

3. You did this on OKC, so either she's as desperate as you, or she's using the site to play games with people.

4. What are you planning to do while there? My suggestions: let her show you around campus, then take her out to eat somewhere for dinner (nothing fancy) and perhaps rent a movie to watch at her place afterward. Cuddling is a good way to initiate intimacy. Also, be honest with her.

5. This could really be a win-win, situation. I don't think she'd turn down sex, so if this doesn't develop into any kind of relationship, at least you got the experience. If it does, so much the better. Women want sex, but only when men take the initiative.

 

[-CC-]

I'm going to have to be very subtle and aloof about this and I'm going to have to bring some razor sharp game. If I'm right that she was initially into me, then there might be some small chance of turning this thing around. But for the time being I've dropped contact with her and I declined her offer to continue hanging out. Homie don't play dat.

This.

 

[CF87]

Good lord, man! Always escalate on a first date/meeting, even if it means you end up in her pants before you "properly" get to know her. I know it seems noble and virtuous to do what you're talking about, but odds are that it's not going to get you where you want to be with women.

^

 

[Onder]

I'm on the bang-that-chick bandwagon but some things to consider...

1. Whose idea was it to drive 5 hours? Was it completely yours? She may only want you to stay the night because it's silly to drive ten hours in a single day just for a day visit.

2. Does she know you're a virgin?

3. You did this on OKC, so either she's as desperate as you, or she's using the site to play games with people.

4. What are you planning to do while there? My suggestions: let her show you around campus, then take her out to eat somewhere for dinner (nothing fancy) and perhaps rent a movie to watch at her place afterward. Cuddling is a good way to initiate intimacy. Also, be honest with her.

5. This could really be a win-win, situation. I don't think she'd turn down sex, so if this doesn't develop into any kind of relationship, at least you got the experience. If it does, so much the better. Women want sex, but only when men take the initiative.

Dude stop making him overthink it. He somehow got a date and he will get laid or he won't. There's no need to analyze every step of it like this. I'm absolutely sure it doesn't help.