My best friend took his own life. Rest in Peace, Mike :(

Mike was a funny and witty character. I only met him once, but it was a memorable experience.......he made the "children of scrotum" joke when we all met up at the Jaxx. I'm sorry to hear that he was suffering to that point...

No one should feel depressed silently. We should all be supportive of each other and open to one another and realize that it is very common (in many cases just a natural reaction to our surrounding environment)......society is a dark place, and we all have to deal with irrational thoughts and desires and whatever other crap that may internally or externally related. If I've learned anything from this and other events, it's that we shouldn't get all wrapped up in petty, everyday things or be so critical of others (I find most of the time I am just being hypocritical) and just look at the big picture.

I regret any platitudes that may have been associated with this post.

RIP Mike

btw ginamarina that sitwell quote is awesome
 
masterpud19 said:
No one should feel depressed silently. We should all be supportive of each other and open to one another and realize that it is very common (in many cases just a natural reaction to our surrounding environment)......society is a dark place, and we all have to deal with irrational thoughts and desires and whatever other crap that may internally or externally related.
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Unfortunately many of us suffer silently. I was thinking about this today, and thinking how difficult tonight and tomorrow will be for Will and Mike's family.

The reason we are silently depressed: because the first question people ask is "why?". And that's hard. Because many times there just is no answer. :( We'd all like to know "why" a million times over in our lives. :cry: It's so often the most useless word, really. Especially in reference to society. and feelings.

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))) to all who are hurting. "And I'm sayin' a prayer for the desperate hearts tonight" - Aerosmith.

Please may it be that you have found peace, Mike.
 
I remember the time Mike came to Milanos board and started trouble, we fought pretty good there for a awhile, but in the end we were cool. I enjoyed reading his posts and I will miss them.

Will, I dont know how it feels to lose a freind like that. I am sorry dude.
 
There isn't much I can say that hasn't been said already. Mike and I had our differences (the guns argument comes to mind), but we shared some laughs too (most notorious was our attack on the CoB board), and I think we all agree that he was great to have at this board. Most of us, if not all, can only guess at the why's, but I hope the people around him aren't feeling too guilty, or that they aren't hating themselves because "they should have done something." Suicide can take you by surprise and very often, there's nothing you can do before it happens.

Lots of strength to Mike's family, Will, Mike's friends, and the girl I assume is his girlfriend. She looks like a wonderful girl and I hope she's doing alright, because she must be having a horrible time right now. Sorry for your loss, Will, and my deepest, most heartfelt condolences.
 
I know it's creezy, and I am not like promoting my band.

But my best friend died in 99, and it was the hardest thing I ever went through man, Truly, My condolances. I think I mentioned the pic in another forum/thread, but now reading this thread, I am thinking about my buddy Dave. He died 8 years ago, and I still visit his plot once a month.
I will post the song lyrics I wrote for him, maybe they can help you in some way.


A ROSE FOR A DYING MUSE

Smothered light fades slowly
Dreams they end, snow falling
headstones bleached with blackness
A mother's tear reminds us to celebrate the life that once lived.
And the poetry that spoke through his eyes
Celebrate the life that once lived.
Brave voyage through the dark awaking
Come Brothers Gather in mourning ...celebrate the life that once lived and the poetry that spoke through his eyes.
Shed a tear for all is not lost, our eyes have forgotten our souls they have not
Once again I fall towards the earth with a tear at my brow and a rose for the dying.
Hear me now though I am dying, please stay, hear my words.
Our time on earth has gone forever, though my thoughts of you remain.
Had I done something to change this, would you have stayed with me.
My arms are hurt but their not broken, I will carry you with me.
Solace laughs on a distant shore, while the rest of us fight the ripping tide.
In a sterile room with curtained gloom, you hovered over me, hovering over you.
with crowded eyes and mustache that wasn't your own.
But those crooked teeth still made you smile immortal.
Be strong, don't fall I'll carry you there - burden.
gray skies gathered in your eyes forging on
my soul is braced against the hull of my craft.
so I prepare to sail towards the shore.
As winter dawns upon your heaven ,the lamb of God shall weep in waiting.
such grief for it seams that the weight of the lies down upon our shoulders.
Rise, Rise, Rise
in loving memory of david theberdge 75~99
 
I haven´t said anything to that topic yet because I post here too little and I´m still not sure if I should express myself to that case of death.

I hardly know anybody here at the board close enough to impose my opinion upon them.

To me it makes no sense to try to give advice how to manage the situation best - everyone has to deal with it in his own way, alone or within family and friends.
We all have to deal with terrible losses during our lives and even if we might think we made it through those dark and seemingly hopeless times it can get us again and again.

I´ve tried these things a couple of times before, I thought I could work it out and then it happend to me that out of the blue a memory stroke my mind and threw me back to where I had started.

Even though I´m a stranger to most people here at the board, to the people who knew Mike in person I just want to wish you a lot of strength to get through the new sitiation without him.
 
dan of bereavement said:
I know it's creezy, and I am not like promoting my band.

But my best friend died in 99, and it was the hardest thing I ever went through man, Truly, My condolances. I think I mentioned the pic in another forum/thread, but now reading this thread, I am thinking about my buddy Dave. He died 8 years ago, and I still visit his plot once a month.
I will post the song lyrics I wrote for him, maybe they can help you in some way.


A ROSE FOR A DYING MUSE

Smothered light fades slowly
Dreams they end, snow falling
headstones bleached with blackness
A mother's tear reminds us to celebrate the life that once lived.
And the poetry that spoke through his eyes
Celebrate the life that once lived.
Brave voyage through the dark awaking
Come Brothers Gather in mourning ...celebrate the life that once lived and the poetry that spoke through his eyes.
Shed a tear for all is not lost, our eyes have forgotten our souls they have not
Once again I fall towards the earth with a tear at my brow and a rose for the dying.
Hear me now though I am dying, please stay, hear my words.
Our time on earth has gone forever, though my thoughts of you remain.
Had I done something to change this, would you have stayed with me.
My arms are hurt but their not broken, I will carry you with me.
Solace laughs on a distant shore, while the rest of us fight the ripping tide.
In a sterile room with curtained gloom, you hovered over me, hovering over you.
with crowded eyes and mustache that wasn't your own.
But those crooked teeth still made you smile immortal.
Be strong, don't fall I'll carry you there - burden.
gray skies gathered in your eyes forging on
my soul is braced against the hull of my craft.
so I prepare to sail towards the shore.
As winter dawns upon your heaven ,the lamb of God shall weep in waiting.
such grief for it seams that the weight of the lies down upon our shoulders.
Rise, Rise, Rise
in loving memory of david theberdge 75~99
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Dan, you brought a few new tears streaming, beautiful. Maybe you can send me the song sometime.

Gina
 
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