what is more important?

[crumbling mirth]

loving someone or being loved?

 

[Demonspell]

Whatever leads to frequent passionate sex the quickest

 

[crumbling mirth]

haha
well...in my experience sex and love aren't as intrinsically linked as they should or could be

 

[MetalManCPA]

One without the other is hollow.

You need both if it's love your looking for, or none to avoid a major disappointment.

 

[Misanthrope]

Sadly...truly sadly i have to agree with metalmancpa. I suppose that desperate people choose to love and not expect love in return...and it can be done and one can deal with everything that comes with it but at the end you either end up giving up or dead...

 

[_Transparent_]

Originally posted by Demonspell
Whatever leads to frequent passionate sex the quickest

i'd agree with that

 

[Misanthrope]

yesh....Money its the fastest shortcut to passionate sex inside or outside of a relationship if you are into materialism and superficial things get loaded and let us people with feelings have a nice discussion...

 

[bleedingskeptic]

is there anything that can't be bought? money pisses me off. basically if you want the lazy way out, get a bunch of money and you'll find everyone will suddenly love you. if you want something deeper that actually nourishes the human need to be loved then i then get your head out of your pants and work for it damnit. i beleive that one without the other is hollow, like metalmancpa said. however, it has to start somewhere. if you learn to love you'll find people will respond to it (hopefully) by loving you back, but you have to let them know they are loved.

 

[Misanthrope]

Agreed...all but the end. Sometimes you do give and find a hard time to get something in return or you are no longer shure if you are getting something in return....

 

[sinsofman]

I think it's up to the person...some ppl luv to luv others and to give luv to others...wether they expect something in return i don't know. I think it's impossible for humans to be totally altruistic therefor these ppl obviously want some luv in return but maybe they can be happy or happier than others with the balance tipped the other way.
What is a motherly person than somebody who thrives on being needed (loved) by ppl they help (nurture). The motherly person may not necessarily luv the ppl he/she is nurturing but definately wants in return.
I suffer deeply from lack of luv returned...i think it very important to have a balance. It's never going to be equal luv both ways and that's the fragility of relationships...some work it out...most don't

life sux...if only my wife and my girlfriend could understand that

 

[Misanthrope]

You have a wife and a girlfriend and you think life sucks?
Wait until you are alone my friend...not that i wish you misfortune or anything...

 

[sinsofman]

lol i was just kidding misanthrope my learned friend. I have a wife yes...i have lots of girls that I luv and yet i can never luv if u gather. Trust me when u have a wife that u luv and u have a friend who just happens to be a girl and that friend gets u so much that u fall in luv with her and know that u'll never be with her...that my friend is loneliness

 

[Misanthrope]

making a slight alteration of a famous quote
what is better to be loved and loose her or to never be loved?

I was a loyal follower of the first option...today im bending towards the second one

 

[RETIREDTrapped]

Lets rephrase this.

What is more important... Love or sex?

 

[Misanthrope]

If 5 000 000 years of evolution mean something to you Love

If you want to ignore those years and act like a filthy animal like 99% of the world Sex

But a good part of the remaining 1% post on this forum so leave us alone and make your own thread

 

[Angelbreeze]

Answering the original thread i think that both things are necessary. Some people could think that only one of those things it's enough to be happy, but the true is that really hurt to know that you are not getting love from the person who you love, or that you are not loving to someone who really loves to you.

For the question about if is better to be loved and loose her or to never be loved, i say that always is better to be loved and lose her/him than the loneliness about never know what means to be just one second with someone who are you loving and her/him love you.......That fact changed my life, and i'll never forget that unique chance.

 

[Russell]

Originally posted by metalmancpa
One without the other is hollow.

You need both if it's love your looking for, or none to avoid a major disappointment.

Thats sum it up perfectly for me

 

[crumbling mirth]

for sure.

i think it's important to have both...

 

[Brutalizer]

Both, of course!

 

[RETIREDTrapped]

If 5 000 000 years of evolution mean something to you Love

If you want to ignore those years and act like a filthy animal like 99% of the world Sex

But a good part of the remaining 1% post on this forum so leave us alone and make your own thread

It was a legitimate question that i asked, Misanthrope.
I certainly hope that your last comment was aimed at the '99%' rather than at me, for i was being serious.

I asked this because of Demonspell's comment...

Whatever leads to frequent passionate sex the quickest

...For i personally disagree.

Like you said, 99% of the world act like filthy animals, and i think that is really sad, as true as it is.

When those '99%' are truly alone, THEN they might understand.