@hyena (and anyone else who thinks same): I really didn't want to react on your first post because I think everybody has the right on their opinion and I don't care what people who don't know me well,or at all think about me and my life. What made me react and wrote this (and pissed me off) was that you called him a sexist and all other things about him. I never met a person (yes,not a man, a person) who believes more in same position and equality in everything of both genders. Hell, if anybody in our relationship is sexist,that would be me,not him. And image of strong man and poor girl,please. I really don't know from where did you get that image in this case,but you are only one who has it and couldn't be more wrong. You see,I never «searched» for a man who will «protect» me,I think I can do that all by myself. And if I wanted,wouldn't it be very stupid of me to find one on other continent and one who can't be more far from that oh-so-attractive image of man today?! I love him precisely (among many other things) because he is so opposite from that image,he never tried to act or acted like I'm «weaker» in anything,quite contrary.
I know that my «image» on this board isn't serious or smart or respected like image of many others,but ever occured you that I just don't want to show my «deep concepts» here? I look at this place as place to have some fun (because I'm sick of seriousness in my life),meet interesting people and see their thoughts on many subjects. The reason why I'm not often part of serious discussion here isn't because I don't have anything to say,it's because I'm closed person and have troubles to express all I want to say on right way in front of many people. So yes,I have «worse command» of language than him. But all that can't apply in any case on our private conversations where I am what I really am and say all I want 100 % openly,all my «deep concepts» (which he understands perfectly despite my «bad» english and has many same,btw). As you see,when I have enough motivation (or just am fed up with all wrong things said),I can talk seriously. I'm sure you'll find many things written wrong because I just don't care is my every word correctly written or sentence grammaticly correct. I never thought that that shows my knowledge or intelligence in everything else,but that's just my opinion. You can also say this is «need to protect» and you sure are right,I want to protect so good person when somebody says so many wrong things about him,not because he is my boyfriend but because he is all opposite from what you said and I never liked to see people hurt the ones I care for,especially when they hurt them with so much untruthful things. Again,you have every right on your opinion,but in this case you really aren't competent to have any because only me and him know why we were attracted to each other really and it didn't happen on UM (therefor I don't see any background for your opinion).
If you think you do,then I can only say that,from my experience,people who surround themselves with inferior ones want them to stay inferior ones. Now,here things become really funny in my case (if I were inferior one) because Alex is one of few close persons who finds my thoughts and opinions really brilliant and smart and he succeeded to get my self-esteem and many other things high as never before because of how highly he thinks about me (in many things he actually thinks better about me than me myself and I'm often surprised how much he finds my thoughts brilliant,many more brilliant and smarter than his).If that's acting superior...
And like that was from the begining,he «saw» many things I never showed or will on this forum and was attracted by them (same goes for me) so your theory about him is really sad,I never thought that person like you,who I find so smart and very respect,could assume and say such things without really knowing anything about the subject.
Now,I'm sure you'll find in my post only more proof for your opinion because everybody sees things like they want to (and I really don't care 'cause I'm part of this relationship and know the truth,real one)…but I hope I'll never have so many years of «experience» to say such things about people I don't really know. There are many other things I could say,but I just don't have will to prove you that you are wrong because I never really cared what others think about my life,I'm the one living it and know it best.
Edit: rahvin,I'm sorry about you and Lina,I know I don't know both of you at all,but seems from others that you were good couple.